Being Well with Forrest Hanson and Dr. Rick Hanson

Learning to Trust Yourself: How to Stop Self-Abandonment

Feb 10, 2025

Dive into the fascinating exploration of self-trust and self-reliance. Discover why some individuals struggle with internal validation and how to nurture inner strength. The hosts unpack the significance of psychological flexibility and welcoming positive feedback. Learn effective frameworks for building self-worth and stability, as well as techniques for enhancing self-awareness and emotional balance. Plus, they delve into the impact of early life experiences on personal narratives, encouraging authenticity and resilience in the face of life's challenges.

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Self-trust is cultivated through challenging experiences that reinforce personal capabilities, helping individuals manage life's obstacles confidently.

Self-advocacy is essential for building self-trust, enabling individuals to distinguish personal limitations from external challenges effectively.

Authenticity enhances self-trust by aligning actions with personal values and fostering environments that support genuine self-expression and connection.

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The Roots of Self-Trust

Self-trust develops from the belief that one can manage challenges and make appropriate choices, particularly in difficult situations. The foundation often comes from supportive childhood experiences that reinforce the ability to navigate life's obstacles. Individuals who grew up in environments that fostered self-efficacy tend to carry an innate trust in their decision-making skills. However, those lacking these experiences may internalize a model that perceives external validation as crucial for feeling secure and competent.

Intro

3min

The Journey to Self-Trust

15min

Building Self-Compassion and Empowerment in Times of Anxiety

4min

Building Self-Trust and Regulation

18min

Fostering Self-Trust Amid Changing Circumstances

4min

Navigating Self-Trust and Authenticity

19min

Exploring Self-Perception and the Inner Critic

5min

In this special episode, Dr. Rick and Forrest explore how we can become more self-reliant, and learn to trust ourselves. This helps us be resilient in the face of life’s challenges, and it’s a key resource for people who tend to abandon their wants and needs. They start by discussing why some people struggle with self-trust, the difference between inside-out and outside-in safety, and changing the model we have of ourselves. Forrest introduces a framework for developing self-trust based on self-efficacy, flexibility, self-advocacy, and accurate appraisal, and Rick applies this to how we can build self-worth and feel strong and capable.

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Key Topics:

0:00: Introduction

1:10: Why some people have an easier time trusting themselves than others

4:30: An outside-in vs, inside-out sense of safety, and feeling reliable

9:50: Welcoming positive feedback, and psychological flexibility

14:10: Sticking up for yourself

19:55: Stabilizing yourself when feeling helpless

25:00: Evaluating internal stories, and living moment to moment

30:15: Feeling like someone who matters, and feeling seen by others

35:00: Three aspects of self-regulation, and self-appraisal

41:35: Object relations, and focusing attention on your inner world

48:55: Seeing yourself as the creator of your world, and authenticity

55:15: Recap

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