Episode 342: The Secret To Cultivating Passion

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Nov 5, 2024

In this insightful discussion, Dr. Emily Jamea, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist and author of Anatomy of Desire, shares her expertise on maintaining passion in relationships. She emphasizes the role of curiosity in enhancing intimacy and offers tips for couples to embrace new experiences. The conversation also highlights the importance of vulnerability and attunement, likening emotional connection to the rhythm of a ballroom dance. By fostering deeper understanding, couples can cultivate a more fulfilling and passionate sex life.

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Curiosity in Sex

Curiosity in sex involves challenging internalized societal values and staying curious about your partner's evolving desires.
Consider what fits you versus what society dictates.

ADVICE

Overcoming Barriers to Curiosity

Trying new things in the bedroom can be stressful. Start with small changes to avoid anxiety and stay within your comfort zone.
Embrace novelty gradually.

ADVICE

Applying Flow Science to Sex

Apply flow science to sex by finding the right challenge-skill ratio. Avoid boredom or anxiety by making subtle adjustments that enhance focus.
Small changes can intensify the experience.

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How do you create a lasting connection with a partner and sustain passion in a relationship over time? In today’s show, we’re going to discuss the secrets you need to know for cultivating hotter and healthier sex lives. By following these tips, you can learn to have the kind of sex that we all really want to be having, which is where it feels almost effortless because you’re totally in synch with your partner.

I am joined once again by Dr. Emily Jamea, an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in Houston, Texas. Dr. Jamea hosts the popular Love & Libido Podcast and is author of the new book Anatomy of Desire: Five Secrets to Create Connection and Cultivate Passion.

Some of the specific topics we discuss include:

Why is curiosity an important element of great sex?
How do you build up the courage to try something new if that sounds a little scary or stressful to you?
How can you learn to become more adaptable in the bedroom?
Why is vulnerability important for having great sex?
What is attunement, and how can we become more attuned to our partners during sex?

You can check out Emily’s website to learn more about her work and follow her on the socials at @DrEmilyJamea.

Got a sex question? Send me a podcast voicemail to have it answered on a future episode at speakpipe.com/sexandpsychology.

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