Episode 147: The Hidden Trauma of Being the Chosen Child & a Path Toward Healing—Making Sense of Your Family Story with Therapist Adam Young

In this powerful episode, Dr. Alison welcomes Adam Young, a psychotherapist and author of the new book, “Make Sense of Your Story”, to dive into the complexities of family dynamics, and how the stories we tell about our families shape our adult lives. Adam shares his personal experiences and professional insights on how being triangulated within his family as a child impacted his psychological development and emotional health.

Here's what you'll learn:

* Why it’s crucial to identify family myths

* The unique trauma of being the chosen child

* Idealizing families—why we do it & how it hurts us

* The danger of self-betrayal in relationships

* The #1 way to heal childhood attachment wounds

* Traits of securely attached relationships

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• Episode 79: Surviving Trauma & A Path to Forgiveness—Finding God In the Hardest Parts of Your Story With Esau McCaulley

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