#217: The Missing Piece in Your Healing Journey

In this episode, we explore what it really takes to create meaningful change — especially in those seasons where everything feels hard, familiar patterns keep looping, and no amount of “trying” seems to make a difference.

We talk about the inner environment required for real change, and why self-compassion isn’t the opposite of accountability — it’s the foundation of it.

You’ll hear about:

• Why we default to shame when we feel stuck
• The myth that self-criticism leads to better behaviour
• How shame overwhelms an already stressed nervous system
• Why being on your own team is essential for honest self-reflection

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00:00 Introduction 04:13 Why Self-Judgment is So Common06:32 Understanding and Validating Anxiety08:49 The Role of Self-Compassion in Growth11:58 Isn't Self-Compassion Self-Indulgent?