Sex With Emily

How Childhood Trauma Shows Up in Your Sex Life

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Sep 23, 2025
Joining the conversation is Violet Benson, a comedian and blogger known for her candid insights on relationships. She discusses pausing penetrative sex to tackle unhealthy intimacy patterns and the importance of setting boundaries. Violet also shares her emotional journey through egg freezing, detailing unexpected hormonal challenges. The duo explores how to differentiate between genuine connection and unhealthy attachment. Plus, they offer dating tips emphasizing vulnerability and authenticity, turning clinginess into a strength.
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ADVICE

Convert Fear Into A Boundary

  • Turn fears into boundaries by deciding not to sleep with someone too fast when it harms your judgment.
  • Use that boundary to protect your emotional clarity and avoid chasing unavailable partners.
INSIGHT

Healing Is Management Not Erasure

  • Deep childhood patterns don't fully vanish; you learn to manage and recover faster.
  • Healing is measured by how quickly you notice and course-correct, not by never repeating behaviors.
ANECDOTE

Egg Freezing Triggered Intense Hormonal Effects

  • Violet describes freezing her eggs and the severe hormonal and emotional side effects she experienced.
  • She nearly spiraled mentally and only found relief after reading other women's accounts explaining the hormone effects.
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