Savage Lovecast Episode 947

Dec 24, 2024

A quirky revival of the Feast of the Ass is humorously explored, complete with festive traditions. Listeners hear about the complexities of BDSM dynamics in new relationships and the importance of communication. One caller grapples with her past as a sex worker, facing issues of insecurity and power in her current romance. The discussion takes a turn towards intimacy, challenging the notion that women simply need lubrication, emphasizing emotional engagement instead. Medieval holiday origins and their modern interpretations also get a spotlight in this lively conversation.

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Intro

00:00 • 5min

Bun(t) Celebration: From Tradition to Whimsy

04:35 • 7min

Navigating BDSM Dynamics in a New Relationship

11:51 • 4min

Navigating Kinky Relationships and Communication

16:01 • 2min

Navigating Past and Present in BDSM Dynamics

18:23 • 2min

Navigating Toxic Relationships and Personal Desires

20:22 • 13min

Exploring Intimacy Beyond Lubrication

33:26 • 15min

Challenging Terms of Connection in Sexual Relationships

48:25 • 3min

Dan Savage is bringing back a forgotten Catholic holiday. On January 14, let us all celebrate the Feast of the Ass.

A woman's beloved twin sister isn't dating, isn't getting on the apps, isn't looking for a relationship. Should the caller keep trying to set her up with great guys from work? Or leave her be?

A woman used to be a sex worker when she was younger. She has since built a new career, and loves her life. She got into BDSM, and when she told her new dom about her past, he lost his mind. He feels her sex worker history takes away his power. He demanded that she fill out a questionnaire spelling out her entire sexual history. The list goes on and on and on. Why does her past matter to him? What should she do about it?

On the Magnum, take a sexy, sexy journey back to medieval times, to hear about the origins of Christmas, St. Valentine's Day and the Feast of the Ass. Basically, the medieval church knew how to party. Those of you who are horny to hear about the counter reformation are going to GET OFF on this convo. Dr. Janega is a hoot, and she and Dan belong together.

And, lube lube lube! This caller is sick of hearing that women just need to lube up when they aren't wet enough for sex. If they aren't wet, it means their lover hasn't done the job yet. Right? Right??!!!

Right.

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Dan Savage is a sex-advice columnist, podcaster, author, and creator of the It Gets Better Project.

From polyamory, to BDSM, gay rights to sexual health and with a dose of progressive politics, Dan Savage has been cultural force for sex positivity since the 1800s.