Published in 1972, 'The Leatherman's Handbook' was one of the first books to bring leather sex and BDSM into the open. It introduced standards of courtesy and behavior within the leather community, helping to define masculine-identified homosexuality and challenge mainstream stereotypes. The book is considered a foundational text for gay men worldwide and is often referred to as the 'Bible' of the leather scene[2][3][5].
SM 101 by Jay Wiseman is a detailed guide to the world of consensual BDSM, including bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadomasochism. The book is designed for both beginners and those with some experience, providing a thorough introduction to the terminology, practices, and safety protocols of BDSM. It covers a wide range of topics from finding partners and negotiating scenes to step-by-step guides on bondage, spanking, and erotic role-playing. The book emphasizes the critical importance of consent, safety, and mutual respect in all BDSM activities. It also includes discussions on the psychological aspects and emotional dynamics of SM relationships, as well as practical advice on starting and running SM organizations and events[1][2][5].
Dan Savage is bringing back a forgotten Catholic holiday. On January 14, let us all celebrate the Feast of the Ass.
A woman's beloved twin sister isn't dating, isn't getting on the apps, isn't looking for a relationship. Should the caller keep trying to set her up with great guys from work? Or leave her be?
A woman used to be a sex worker when she was younger. She has since built a new career, and loves her life. She got into BDSM, and when she told her new dom about her past, he lost his mind. He feels her sex worker history takes away his power. He demanded that she fill out a questionnaire spelling out her entire sexual history. The list goes on and on and on. Why does her past matter to him? What should she do about it?
On the Magnum, take a sexy, sexy journey back to medieval times, to hear about the origins of Christmas, St. Valentine's Day and the Feast of the Ass. Basically, the medieval church knew how to party. Those of you who are horny to hear about the counter reformation are going to GET OFF on this convo. Dr. Janega is a hoot, and she and Dan belong together.
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