Sleeping Around Can Couples Heal After Cheating? Where Therapy Gets It Wrong with Rebecca Stone
Jun 24, 2025
Rebecca Stone, a somatic and couples therapist, shares her expertise on healing after infidelity. She discusses betrayal trauma and critiques traditional therapy approaches that often overlook the unique pain of the betrayed partner. The conversation dives into the psychology behind cheating, emphasizing how unprocessed trauma can drive infidelity. Stone highlights that recovery is possible, focusing on accountability, communication, and the transformative power of shared experiences in rebuilding trust and intimacy.
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Personal Family Roots Led To This Work
- Rebecca grew up with intergenerational infidelity in both grandfathers and developed fear about male sexuality.
- That family history inspired her work in affair recovery and intergenerational trauma.
Infidelity Is Trauma, Not Mere Rupture
- Betrayal from infidelity is a form of trauma and not just a relationship rupture.
- Treating it as 'both contributed' can retraumatize the betrayed partner and worsen harm.
Healing Can Strengthen The Relationship
- Couples can heal from betrayal when both partners engage in deep trauma work.
- Infidelity can catalyze growth so the relationship becomes stronger than before.
