The Cure for Chronic Pain with Nicole Sachs, LCSW S5 E12 - Moving from Pressure to Presence with Inner Child (and actual) Parenting
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Nov 21, 2025 Delve into the transformative power of presence in both parenting and inner child work. A recent study reveals that simply listening without offering solutions significantly enhances emotional regulation in children. Nicole shares how applying this concept can help manage our own stress and anxiety. The connection between awareness and healing is explored, emphasizing small wins and the importance of showing up without urgency. Discover how non-fixing presence creates lasting change and fosters safety within ourselves.
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Presence Beats Problem-Solving For Regulation
- Children regulate emotionally because of an adult's calm presence, not their advice or fixes.
- Nicole Sachs explains a Yale study where simple acknowledgment improved children's emotional regulation.
Use Ten Minutes Of Nonjudgmental Listening
- Ask a child about their day and accept whatever they offer without fixing or advising for 10 minutes daily.
- Respond with simple acknowledgements like "I get that" and avoid shaping or solving the discussion.
Brain Change From Simple Presence
- After three weeks of the listening practice, children's vmPFC activity increased, improving emotional regulation.
- The change occurred despite parents offering no solutions, showing the power of non-intrusive presence.
