The Allender Center Podcast

Revisiting “The Sex Talk You Never Got” with Sam Jolman

Apr 4, 2025
Sam Jolman revisits the profound themes of his book, exploring how the biblical story of Amnon and Tamar illuminates issues of lust, power, and the generational impacts of trauma. He challenges men to engage with their pasts honestly, advocating for healing through humility and storytelling. The conversation delves into emotional turmoil and the transformative power of literature, urging a deeper understanding of masculinity. Ultimately, it's a call to embrace a sexuality that honors and protects rather than harms.
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ANECDOTE

Road Trip Sex Talk

  • A father used Sam Jolman's audiobook for a 19-hour sex talk with his teenage son.
  • The son jokingly called it the "longest sex talk [he] ever got."
INSIGHT

Men and Sexuality

  • Men struggle with power, beauty, and causing harm within their sexuality.
  • The story of Amnon and Tamar in 2 Samuel 13 exemplifies this struggle.
INSIGHT

Lust as Power

  • Lust isn't simply sexual desire but a craving for power and control.
  • Amnon's hatred of Tamar after raping her shows how lust elevates, then degrades.
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