The HOW of Recovery - Guiding Principals To Get Sober

Well, thank you for joining me, my friends on this solo episode of the one data time podcast. Today I'm going to be talking about the how of recoveries, three guiding principles that will help you get sober. A friend of mine actually interviewed me for an article that was published on Huffington Post and the article title was the house of recovery, three principles that can help you break free of addiction for good and I just kind of want to go over it because you know, those of us in the 12 step community are very familiar with this. But if you haven't taken that leap yet, this is really important information to have. So how stands for honest, open minded and willing and so that it all starts with the the honesty piece? I don't know if it was like a Albert Einstein, I think it was an Albert Einstein quote that said, have a problem can't be solved with the same level of consciousness that created it. That was one of the quotes that blew my mind. And so I really had to get honest about what was actually happening. It was the honesty about it wasn't, we want to be judged by our intentions, but people actually judge us by our actions, right. And so I had to get really honest with others about my own behavior, to get honest with myself, right? I was feeling like I was a victim, that, like I was at the effect of life instead of the cause. And so really, starting with that honesty, was, that was really my starting point, right? It's like a problem can't be solved. Until we acknowledge that there is a problem. sounds completely obvious, right? But when it comes to breaking addictions, we go into denial. Because, you know, we're using be that's our coping skill. It's like our best friend, it's, you know, it's the one thing that we feel like is saving us but, you know, when I first got sober, it was like, the thing that was saving me my savior turned into my executioner, right, like, I hate to be dramatic, but that's how it was like I was drunk driving. I was, you know, I was binge drinking. I wasn't physically addicted. I guess I didn't have like DTS in the morning. But I was a heavy binge drinker. And so you know, you suffer things like alcohol poisoning. You could i i've seen her. Over the 27 years, I've been sober people die from like a fixie ation, or alcohol poisoning. I unfortunately had a friend from high school who died from alcohol poisoning. And her husband and children found her on the couch is so terrible. It's the denial about how bad things are. Right? That's, that's it's the seek, it's was that thing. You're only as sick as your secrets, right? It's the secrets and the lies that keep us sick. So starting with the honesty, we just got to get really honest about where our lives are at how alcohol is affecting us, and how our behavior while drinking and doing drugs as affecting others. Right. So getting really honest about what's going on. And then the second one is open mindedness. There's this quote that I heard very, in the very beginning, it's the saying contempt prior to investigation. And a lot of times people will sort of like be dismissive about information before they actually have an opportunity to apply it. Right. So it's important, it's important to, you know, just stay open minded. And, you know, once you sort of open to the idea that there's another way of life, you know, when the student is ready, the teacher appears. That's a very famous old quote. I think it's the Lao Tzu. But anyway, having an open mind means that you become teachable. You know, just keep in mind that all your best ideas got you to this point, right? So maybe it would be helpful to be open minded and get some new information, so that you can make different decisions and take different actions, right, this is a lot of this is about cause and effect really, it's not personal, right? It's just cause and effect. So with the open mindedness about what's really going on honesty about what's going on the open mindedness to new information, new ways to approach challenging situations. That moves us then to the willingness piece, willingness, you know, in Alcoholics Anonymous, they say, doing the same thing over and over again, and expecting a different result is the actual definition of insanity. So until we are willing to take action and actually do something different,

nothing changes. So By being willing and maybe even desperately willing, that can be the catalyst that you need to take suggestions from these people. You know, it's sort of like the model of the apprentice, right? The Apprentice learns from the masters. It's just like role modeling, right? You seek out the people who have what you want, and then do what they do. It invokes the law of cause and effect, right? It works for everyone. So those are really the three things open, honest, open minded and willing willingness to, you know, do something different. So that is sort of the wrap up of the how of recovery. I mean, it'd be doing lots of little short. So if this is helpful to you, please subscribe. If you're watching this on YouTube, you can hit the little bell. And that will give you a notification when new little solo episodes are available. So I hope that was helpful. If you need any help, you can reach out to me at sober life school.com you can have a free strategy session,

I will jump on the phone with you. I will listen to anything that you want to tell me and we can come up with a strategy that will help you to stop drinking. So reach out You are not alone. I'm here to help. I know tons of people that are willing to help. You can do it for free. You can go to 12 step programs, refuge recovery, Celebrate Recovery. I am a coach, I can help you orchestrate organize all your different resources. I don't care how you do it. The idea is that you just get sober. If I can be of assistance. Let me know. Thanks for hanging out with me and we'll talk again real soon.