The One Day At A Time Recovery Podcast

In this episode, I’m joined by Joanna and Matthew Raabsmith—a couple whose story of addiction, betrayal, and ultimately deep healing is nothing short of powerful. Matthew shares his journey through sexual addiction and recovery, while Joanna opens up about the betrayal trauma that nearly broke their relationship—and how they found a way to rebuild trust, intimacy, and connection. We talk about what betrayal trauma really is (hint: it’s not codependency), how hiding the truth strips partners of choice, and why full disclosure—when done safely—can be a turning point for couples facing the fallout of hidden addictions. I’m so grateful to Joanna and Matthew for being so open, vulnerable, and generous with their story. Not only have they done their own healing work, they’re now guiding other couples through some of the most painful and confusing moments of their lives. If youve ever asked yourself, “Can we really come back from this?”—this conversation is for you. Before we jump in, I wanted to share an update on my “Self-Care Summer” project where I have been focusing the majority of my time on recovering from burnout. I have gone through the workaholic/burnout cycle so many times, I realized it’s time to take a step back, quit posting daily content on social media, delete the social apps from my phone, and really take action on all the healing practices that I have discovered over the last 30 years.  My approach was to create a list of activities, and I am listing them in the order that I’ve been doing them. You can find the list at odaatchat.com under this episode. The list includes: Gratitude List - text to clients andamp; friends Walks With Teddy while listening to educational or inspiring podcasts Weight training andamp; Yoga 12 Step Meetings Journaling: Two Way Prayer, Morning Pages, Education Reflection Journaling 30 Minutes Meditation - Waking Up App Tracking Time: I clock all the things above but also include Step Work Cooking Grooming Gardening Education - There’s a bunch of books I want to work through. The intention is to actually do the work suggested in the books. On the docket are: 5 types of wealth by Sahil Bloom, Stop missing your life by Corey Muscara, Make Money Easy by Lewis Howes, and possibly A Course In Miracles Podcasting Client Calls Evening reflection journaling I know it probably sounds like a lot, and I didn’t want this to turn into another thing I obsess over. To prevent that, the overarching guiding principle is to do a quick inner compass check and ask, what is the next right indicated action? And if I notice I need to rest or want to focus on play, I do that. The goal is really to practice self-acceptance and to give myself time and space to think about what patterns or stories no longer serve me, and think about who I really want to be and how I really want to spend my time. When we strip away what we think we should do, and get honest about our hearts desire, that’s when we can truly align with our life’s purpose and live authentically. This is really a process of emerging, and I’m excited about this phase in my journey. So stay tuned for updates! And without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Matt andamp; Joanna. 👊🏼Need help applying this information to your own life? Here are 3 ways to get started: 🎁Free Guide: 30 Tips for Your First 30 Days - With a printable PDF checklist Grab your copy here: https://www.soberlifeschool.com 🎁Free Journaling Exercise: How To Get Unstuck, Be Consistent andamp; Reach Your Goals Download Here: https://www.innercompassprogram.com ☎️Private Coaching: Make Sobriety Stick https://www.makesobrietystick.com Subscribe So You Don’t Miss New Episodes! Listen to the episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or Amazon Music, or you can stream it from my website HERE. You can also watch the interview on YouTube. https://www.youtube.com/@theonedayatatimepodcast?sub_confirmation=1     Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast/id1212504521 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4I23r7DBTpT8XwUUwHRNpB Amazon Music: https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/a8eb438c-5af1-493b-99c1-f218e5553aff/the-one-day-at-a-time-recovery-podcast

Hey friend, Im so glad youre here! In case youre new to my little corner of the world, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. If youre not new here, then you already know I love exploring tools and practices that support sobriety, spiritual growth, and mental health - all in an effort to help me change my behavior and ultimately feel better. The tool were talking about today is called Two Way Prayer and Father Bill W will be teaching us what it is, how it can benefit you and how to do it. You may have heard about this before through Elizabeth Gilbert who has a substack called Letters from Love but if you havent, I have come to understand this practice as a way of talking to, and getting answers from universal intelligence. Some people call that intelligence love, or god or source energy or higher self. What its called is not as important as what the practice delivers in terms of guidance and inspiration. So ever since my conversation with todays guest, Father Bill, I have been practicing 2 way prayer and the guidance Ive received has been quite profound. To be transparent, Ive been feeling pretty lost and super burned out. Ive been pushing myself way too hard for way too long. Thats a whole other story, but my request in the 2 way prayer journaling was along the lines of What would you have me do with my work? To my surprise, I got an answer! The answer was to allow myself to have a Self-Care Summer. To allow myself to rest, reset, and recharge. So thats what Ive been doing! Im doing a lot of yoga, weights, journaling, meditating, exchanging gratitude lists, consuming content around self-worth, money, business development, and generally allowing myself to be present for my life. All this to say, the tool of 2 way prayer is something I will continue to incorporate into weekly self-care practices and I have Father Bill to thank for it. I think youll get a lot out of this conversation and if you try the practice, I would love to hear about your experiences! So without further delay, please enjoy this episode with Father Bill. =J

Hi friend, Thank you for downloading this episode and hanging out with me today Before I introduce todays guest, I wanted to let you know we have some new sponsors and youll start to hear about them in the upcoming weeks. This will help me move from depending on donations that cover the expense of producing the podcast. In the near future I will offer a subscription option for ad free episodes, so check the website or YouTube for that. So ,imagine pouring your heart into a book& only to have your life fall apart before it hits the shelves. Thats exactly what happened to my guest this week bestselling author, comedian, and recovery advocate Tiffany Jenkins. In this deeply personal and laugh-through-your-tears conversation, we talk about ( Her ex-husbands relapseand how she rewrote the entire book afterward = Postpartum depression so severe she planned to fake her own kidnapping =% The struggles of a public divorce >` OCD, exposure therapy, and learning to self-validate d And ultimately& how she found real love and rebuilt her life from scratch If youve ever struggled with identity, motherhood, or what it means to start over while staying soberyou need this episode.

Hi Friend, Thank you for downloading the episode! My name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Before I talk about todays guest, I want to share that I am celebrating 9 years of hosting the podcast! I have interviewed more than 400 people, many NYT best selling authors, all kinds of experts, and I celebrate all paths of recovery. Im obviously a huge 12 step advocate, but I also interview people who get sober through yoga, fitness, celebrate recovery, recovery 2.0, She Recovers, online groups, SMART recovery, and recovery darma, just to name a few. It has been my honor to introduce you to so many amazing people who have dedicated their lives to helping others heal from addiction, in all its forms. The podcast has been downloaded in 86 countries, and has been in the top 1% of addiction podcasts for the last 6 years. We have been working tirelessly to bring awareness of recovery, to end the stigma of addiction and offer practical solutions to those who are suffering. I just want to thank you for all your support. For all the podcast reviews, for sharing it with your friends and for being a part of this movement. I couldnt have done it without you! If you are having a hard time, if you need support, please reach out to me. Im a real person behind this mic and Im here to help. You can DM me on Instagram @arlinaallen or email me at arlina @soberlifeschool.com I want you to know, you are not alone. swoosh Healing from addiction isnt just about stopping a behavior its about healing the root cause beneath it. In this episode, we explore a powerful new frontier in recovery ketamine-assisted therapy. While traditional talk therapy has its place, there are times when it cant reach the depths of trauma stored in the body and subconscious mind. Im not a doctor (and I dont play one on the internet), so Ive invited someone who is. Todays guest is a licensed medical doctor and expert in addiction recovery who specializes in ketamine treatment. Dr Mark Hrymoc and I discuss how this medicine is being used to help people access and heal core emotional wounds that often drive addiction and how its changing lives in ways many never thought possible. Whether youre in recovery, supporting someone who is, or just curious about emerging approaches to healing, this conversation offers insight, hope, and a deeper understanding of what real recovery can look like. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Today my friend Courtney Anderson. Courtney is the author of Sober Vibes A Guide to Thriving in Your First Three Months Without Alcohol, and host of the Sober Vibes Podcast She joins me to talk about how sobriety reshapes your relationships, career, identityand what to do when everything shifts. Sobriety is more than putting down the drinkits a total identity shift. In this episode, we dive into the surprising (and sometimes painful) side effects no one talks aboutlike losing friends, outgrowing your job, and redefining who you are. If youve ever thought, Why does everything feel different now?this ones for you. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Connect with Courtney Here https //www.courtneyrecovered.com Link to her book Sober Vibes https //amzn.to/3ZbRX7K =J

Welcome to the podcast! Its been a minute since I introduced myself, so in case we havent met yet, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. I have been sober for 31 years, happily married for 28, a mother of two amazing young men, and an english bulldog called Teddy, that you might hear snoring in the background on occasion. Im also the bestselling author of The 12 Step Guide for Skeptics Clearing up common misconceptions of a path to sobriety. As a sober coach, I help my clients navigate the complex world of recovery and support them through lifes challenges. I coach men and women as they move through early sobriety, transitions at work, healing relationships, and work life balance just to name a few. Recovery is a process and we dont do this alone. If you need additional support, you can learn more my coaching by visiting soberlifeschool.com Today I am speaking with Sam Miller, comedian, father, and a person in long term sobriety. We talk about the complicated relationship he had with his father before he died at 12, and the trauma underneath it all that led to years of addiction and suffering. I have to say, I genuinely appreciated Sams willingness to be so open and vulnerable in this conversation. I walked away feeling hopeful and inspired by his story and how he has created a beautiful life for himself and his family. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Hey friend, Thank you for downloading the episode, my name is Arlina and Ill be your host. Were doing something a little different today. On this call I am speaking with Joslynn who is in long term sobriety, but like many of us, she has been struggling with sticking to a healthy food plan. The funny thing is, we all know what we should eat. But knowing what to do and being able to do it are two different things. What we are going to do on this call, is address the two opposing desires the part that wants to eat healthy and the part that wants to indulge. We will be going through a process called Polarized Parts Work where we honor the intentions of both parts. This is actually a process I take my clients through to help them overcome that internal resistance that shows up when were trying to break out of old habits, start new ones, and generally reach for bigger goals. I hope that this demonstration gives you a little bit of insight into how you can close the gap between knowing what to do, and taking consistent action. And if you know anybody who is struggling with self sabotage or procrastination, please consider sharing this episode with them. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Today I am joined by my friend and fellow podcaster Brock Bevelle. Hes a retired police officer and a man in long term sobriety from opioid addiction. He also manages the Tiktok and IG accounts called @Fentanylprojectaz where he interviews people on the street in active addiction. We are going to talk about what its like to be in long term sobriety and actually get into some of our dark addiction stories that keep us sober that we dont normally talk about. I also wanted to bring awareness to Brocks work where he is actually in the streets trying to help people kick fentanyl addiction. He offers basics like hygiene kits, sunscreen, and water, but he also offers emotional and recovery resources. Not only that, he is literally saving lives on a regular basis. There are many videos on Tiktok where he Narcans people who are actively overdosing. Its heartbreaking, but also so inspiring to watch as he gives hope to so many people. The main reason I wanted to talk with Brock again is because I wanted to find out how we as a community can support people like him who are on the streets every day. If you are inspired by Brocks work and you feel called to help, Ill encourage you to send him some supplies through his amazon link. Ill leave it in the show notes at odaatchat.com, or you can also find it on IG and Tiktok under @fentanylprojectaz So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J

Can marriages really survive alcoholism? Well today my guest Melissa shares how hers almost didnt, but with the support of her 12 step program, professional help, and a lot of work, her marriage is now better than ever! Melissa Stoeltje is the author of Drunk Love Marriage Under The Influence. A memoir that not only shows the dark side of a high achiever who struggled with her drinking, but the steps she took to get her life back on track. Before we jump in, did you know that there are a bunch of resource guides on the website? Theres a guide for your first 30 days, a resource list of 100 books, podcasts and meetings? Theres even a guide on how to have sober fun! Just visit odaatchat.com Lastly, if you are enjoying the podcast, please consider leaving a review on Apple podcasts. Your review helps our rankings so that others like you can find the support they need too. I read every review and your support means the world to me. So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! Get Melissas Book Here https //librarytalespublishing.com/collections/melissa-fletcher-stoeltje =J

Hey friends, welcome to the podcast, in case nobody has told you yet today, you are loved! If youve been listening to the podcast for a while youll know Ive been addressing my financial insecurities lately. Honestly its kind of embarrassing to admit this, but Ive always had a dysfunctional relationship with money. I know this isnt really true, but I have deeply rooted beliefs that money will solve all my problems, and these beliefs are at the root of my workaholism. Today I will be joined by Barney Whiter, a financial coach who is also sober! Well dive into his story of alcoholism, his relationship with money and how he helps people feel more at ease with it and reach their goals. Before we jump in, I am looking for volunteers who would like coaching around procrastination, self-discipline, and work life balance. The coaching sessions will be recorded anonymously and published as bonus episodes. I want listeners to get a feel for what coaching is like and benefit from hearing other peoples experiences. If you are interested, just email me at podcastvolunteer@gmail.com So without further delay, please enjoy this episode, and let me know what you think! =J