

260: When the Higher Desire Spouse Stops Initiating - What to Do in Four Steps
What happens when the spouse who usually initiates sex suddenly stops—and weeks turn into months of silence? This painful “sexual standoff” can leave both partners feeling stuck, rejected, and disconnected.
In this episode, I’ll explain exactly why this pattern happens, share a real couple’s story, and give you four practical steps to break out of the cycle. You’ll learn how to shift focus off of blame, calm the reactivity that kills intimacy, and start rebuilding connection layer by layer.
If you’ve been caught in this cycle—or fear you might end up there—this episode will show you how to untangle the knot and spark intimacy again in your marriage.
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