293: Men, Sex, and Vulnerability with Dr. Paul Abramowitz

In this episode of the Better Sex Podcast, host Jessa Zimmerman welcomes back Dr. Paul Abramowitz for a deep dive into vulnerability in men and its impact on their intimate relationships. They explore the different stages of male development and how vulnerability manifests, the importance of understanding and embracing this vulnerability, and strategies to enhance intimacy and connection. The discussion covers biological and psychological aspects, the role of pornography, and practical steps for couples to foster deeper connections. Key insights from notable experts like Brene Brown and Peggy Klein Platz are also highlighted.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:45 Welcoming Dr. Paul Abramowitz

00:56 Exploring Male Vulnerability in Sex

02:12 Defining Vulnerability

03:58 The Origins and Impact of Vulnerability

09:56 Stages of Male Sexual Development

14:50 Fluid Vulnerabilities and Their Effects

20:22 Insecurity vs. Vulnerability

25:10 Steps to Overcoming Insecurities

25:56 Inviting Vulnerability in Relationships

30:40 The Importance of Vulnerability in Relationships

31:37 Creating Safe Spaces for Men to Express Emotions

33:32 Steps Men Can Take to Foster Vulnerability

35:35 Understanding Emotional and Sexual Hard Wiring

36:47 The Role of Mentorship and Men's Groups

38:18 Practices to Enhance Intimacy and Vulnerability

39:25 The Impact of Porn on Relationships

41:37 The Biological and Psychological Aspects of Male Sexuality

45:00 The Transformative Power of Sexual Intimacy

57:06 Final Thoughts and Resources

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Bio

As a sex and intimacy therapist, Dr. Paul Abramowitz incorporates both Eastern and Western traditions. (Totality Therapy and a PhD in Human Sexuality)

A child of a Gynaecologist and Sex Therapist, Paul fast became fascinated by the challenges in heterosexual relationships, including how sex hormones affect men's ability to form meaningful intimate and sustained relationships. Often, inner conflict and ambivalence arise because of our compulsive and habitual sex-oriented actions and behaviours that tend to disrupt our capacity for discernment, executive function, and intimacy, which can feel like a hijacking.

Moving beyond this predicament and becoming more self-sexually empowered, his book SeXed-Hardwired by Nature - Evolving by Choice (a resource for-journey men and women and therapists alike) is offered as a map to better understand men’s often complex "hardwired for sex" nature, and as an antidote to old limiting sexual beliefs and behaviours, towards a more expanded and evolutionary way of being human and sexual.

With more than 25 years’ experience in workshop and therapy space, using his own integrated methodology (The Abro Method), Paul works with men and women who long to experience more joy, ease and pleasure in partnership, intimacy, and sex.

You can contact Paul at abrap@iafrica.com

His book can be found here: www.sexed.global

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How Big a Problem is Your Sex Life? Quiz – https://www.sexlifequiz.com

The Course – https://www.intimacywithease.com

The Book – https://www.sexwithoutstress.com

Podcast Website – https://www.intimacywithease.com

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