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Magical Overthinkers

Overthinking About Crushes

Aug 21, 2024
Alegra Kastens, an OCD specialist, dives into the chaotic world of crushes in the digital age, where social media and dating apps complicate infatuation. She discusses how neurodivergence influences romantic feelings, particularly the role of limerence and obsessive thoughts. The conversation reveals the emotional intensity of one-sided crushes and the societal pressures from observing others’ relationships. Practical grounding techniques are shared, equipping listeners to navigate their overthinking and embrace the complexities of modern love.
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Quick takeaways

  • Crushes in the digital age intertwine nostalgia and affection, becoming complex emotions shaped by past experiences and loss.
  • Social media intensifies romantic feelings, distorting reality and complicating genuine human connection through curated portrayals and superficial engagements.

Deep dives

Reflections on Loss and Crushes

The episode dives into the emotional complexities of crushes, starting with the host's confounding feelings following the death of a former middle school crush. This acknowledgment of loss illuminates how past crushes are tied to formative experiences during adolescence, making them impactful even years later. The host reflects on how the wounds of such losses can resurface unexpectedly, serving as reminders of youthful love and infatuation. The episode introduces the idea that although these feelings can feel overwhelming, they often blend nostalgia with profound sorrow, complicating how we view infatuation in our adult lives.

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