Overthinking About Crushes

Before the internet, getting lost in a spiral of romantic, obsessive feelings for someone was already an all-consuming experience… but now? With algorithmic dating apps and the ability to overanalyze everyone watching your Instagram Stories, crushes in the digital age are ripe for delulu. In some cases, they might even pose a threat to IRL human connection. This week on the pod, OCD specialist Alegra Kastens (@alegrakastens) joins host Amanda Montell (@amanda_montell) for an open-hearted, all-too-relatable discussion of limerence, neurodivergence, and how crushes have combined with the social media era to produce a perfectly chaotic cocktail of magical overthinking.

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- Sources:

What causes a crush to develop? - bit.ly/3Z0G4SC

Is it a crush or have you fallen into limerence? - nyti.ms/3WS2KSB

Why your internet crush can be stronger than your in-person feelings - bit.ly/3WWRIv9

Office crushes can be fun and excruciating - bit.ly/4dUhvvc

Why crushes are so common, and healthy, at all ages - bit.ly/3Xc1fzT

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