How I Work Quick Win: Why your “default behaviour” isn’t actually yours — and how to change it
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Nov 23, 2025 
Lael Stone, an educator and author who explores how childhood experiences shape our beliefs, dives into the concept of 'imprints'—the invisible narratives we inherit from our families. She discusses how these imprints affect our relationships and career choices, often unconsciously guiding our behaviors. Lael highlights the importance of recognizing these inherited stories, explaining that breaking free from them is an act of growth, not disloyalty. She reveals practical insights on how to identify and change unhelpful patterns shaped by our past.
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Childhood Shapes Invisible Beliefs
- Imprints are belief systems we absorb in childhood that shape how we see the world and behave.
- Lael Stone says these unconscious stories influence relationships, money, success, parenting, and more.
Parents Reverting To Childhood Defaults
- Lael Stone describes parents trained to disconnect from feelings who revert to old defaults despite new tools.
- She observed thousands of parents repeatedly falling back to their modeled childhood responses when stressed.
Relationship Scripts Come From Home
- The way parents communicate models what love and relationships mean for children.
- Lael Stone notes some kids equate yelling with love because that's the relationship script they witnessed.
