Calm Parenting Podcast Kids Who Act Like Nothing Happened After Meltdown, Laugh When Disciplined? #553
Jan 14, 2026
Discover why kids often act like nothing happened after a meltdown and how shame plays a key role. Learn why lecturing can backfire and escalate behavior instead of correcting it. Gain insights on the power of humility, as modeling apologies can reduce shame and encourage openness. Explore effective ways to de-escalate conflicts and delay consequences for better outcomes. Role-playing calming strategies gives kids control and prevents feelings of helplessness. Build long-term trust and connection by modeling self-control and fostering communication.
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Shame Explains Post-Meltdown Behavior
- Kids often act like nothing happened after meltdowns because they feel shame and embarrassment.
- That shame makes them giggle or avoid contrition to escape the awkwardness of being judged.
Lead With Humility, Not Lectures
- Do choose humility over piling on shame when you confront a child after a meltdown.
- Do avoid lecturing; model contrition to invite genuine apology and trust.
Apology Isn't The Main Goal
- Wanting an apology can make you take the situation personally and provoke defensiveness.
- Teaching coping skills and restoring trust matters more than getting immediate contrition.