Women of Impact 6 Signs Your Relationship Won’t Survive - Take the 91% Accurate Divorce Test Now | Dr. Julie Gottman PT 1
Aug 13, 2025
Dr. Julie Gottman, a renowned clinical psychologist and co-founder of the Gottman Institute, shares her wealth of knowledge on relationships. She explores the real drivers behind infidelity, revealing how loneliness often trumps physical attraction. The discussion delves into male and female communication differences and offers actionable scripts for resolving conflicts without defensiveness. Julie also addresses why men tend to withdraw during arguments and highlights the importance of emotional safety in partnerships. This insightful conversation is a must-listen for anyone navigating relationship complexities.
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Loneliness Drives Infidelity
- Affairs usually start from loneliness and emotional connection, not just physical attraction.
- Betrayal involves lying and secrecy, and emotional bonding over shared empathy can escalate into physical affairs.
Flooding Explains Male Shutdown
- Men evolved hypervigilance to detect attack, which triggers fight-or-flight when criticized.
- That physiological flooding leads men to shut down (stonewall) to self-soothe, not to punish their partner.
Gendered Flooding Patterns
- Women evolved greater quick self-soothing to care for infants, so they typically stay present emotionally during conflict.
- Women who suffered past abuse flood more easily and their withdrawal looks like being physically present but emotionally checked out.
