The Sunday Debate: Parenting Doesn’t Matter

Aug 8, 2021

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Anne Plachetka Murphy

In this debate, esteemed experts Robert Plowman, a behavioral genetics professor, Susan Pawlby, a developmental psychologist, Stuart Ritchie, a lecturer in developmental psychiatry, and therapist Anne Plachetka Murphy tackle the controversial question of parenting's role in child development. They explore the dominance of genetics versus nurturing and make a case for free-range parenting. The discussion highlights how emotional support and active parental engagement can profoundly impact children’s neurodevelopment, challenging the notion that parenting doesn’t matter.

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INSIGHT

Genes Over Parenting

Inherited DNA differences significantly shape who we are.
Parenting styles have less impact than genes on children's outcomes.

ANECDOTE

The Identical Strangers

Two adopted identical twins, separated at birth, reunited in college after being called by each other's name.
This highlighted their striking similarities, demonstrating the power of genetics.

ADVICE

Love, Don't Mold

Focus on loving children rather than trying to mold them.
Support their natural inclinations and talents.

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