Explore the dangers of dating without being present and the importance of forming organic connections. Learn how to attract the right person and avoid dating burnout. Discover the significance of being in the dating game and gaining confidence in making organic choices.
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Quick takeaways
The first key takeaway is that the skater archetype in dating is characterized by a fear of emotional pain and a tendency to avoid deep connections, resulting in a lack of genuine relationships.
The second key takeaway is that the sinker archetype in dating involves becoming obsessed with someone and prioritizing their needs over one's own, sacrificing personal identity and desires in the process.
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The Skater: Avoiding Vulnerability and Connection
The first archetype discussed is the skater, someone who dates frequently but lacks vulnerability and the ability to form deep connections. They fear being alone and constantly jump from one person to the next, never giving themselves the time to truly connect with someone. The skater avoids emotional pain and doesn't allow themselves to be hurt, but as a result, they struggle to find genuine and organic connections in their dating life.
The Sinker: Anxiously Attached and Losing Themselves
The second archetype is the sinker, who quickly becomes obsessed with someone they like. They make the other person incredibly important and will do anything to impress them, often losing themselves in the process. They anxiously analyze every aspect of the relationship and prioritize the other person's needs over their own. The sinker fears voicing their own desires, afraid of scaring the other person away. They end up sacrificing their own identity and needs in their quest to secure a relationship.
The Side Liner: Rejecting Dating and Generalizing
The third archetype is the side liner, someone who sidelines themselves from the dating game entirely. They become disenchanted with dating, making generalizations and feeling like dating is impossible. They reject the idea of dating as a defense mechanism to avoid being rejected themselves. However, they eventually realize that they want more than being alone and jump back into dating, repeating the cycle all over again.
You may not know this, but you probably have an unconscious dating mindset.
We all do. It might be learned from our parents, an early relationship, or any other kind of formative childhood experience, but it affects so much of our behavior when we meet someone we like.
In today’s new video, I’m going to share 3 of the most dangerous dating mindsets to avoid, and one powerful mindset that will let you enjoy the process while naturally attracting the person you really want.