In this powerful Part 2 episode of Your Neurodiverse Relationship Podcast (Season 5), neurodiverse relationship expert Jodi Carlton continues her candid conversation with married couple Luke and Lauren Smallcomb.
Together, they open up about: - Navigating ADHD and demand avoidance in marriage - Overcoming anxious and avoidant attachment styles - What happens when one partner is an overfunctioner - Burnout, masking, and learning to communicate better - The difference between acceptance and accommodation - Red flags vs. recoverable challenges in neurodiverse relationships.
👉 Here's Part 1 in case you missed it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LVdE9-xbzKI
🔹 Timestamps:
00:00 – Introduction to Season Five
00:57 – Welcome to Part 2 with Luke & Lauren
01:11 – Challenges and Realizations in Marriage
01:42 – Understanding ADHD and Attachment Styles
03:54 – The Role of Communication
06:55 – Personality Differences and the Enneagram
11:41 – Shifting Roles and Responsibilities
14:47 – Facing Trauma Together
18:36 – Balancing Support and Independence
22:50 – Navigating Demand Avoidance in Relationships
24:07 – Understanding Overfunctioning and Burnout
26:27 – Addressing Imbalance in Effort and Insight
28:09 – Recognizing Abusive Patterns and Seeking Help
32:02 – The Importance of Acceptance and Safety
37:39 – Final Thoughts and Relationship Advice
44:42 – Conclusion and Neurodiversity Resources
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👩💼 Hi, I'm #JodiCarlton !! I am a seasoned professional with 20+ years of experience as a therapist and relationship coach specializing in neurodiverse relationships.
I AM NEURODIVERGENT: I discovered as an adult that I am #ADHD, and I was married to an autistic man for 19 years. I also had other neurodiverse romantic relationships and have an autistic daughter and an ADHD son. Through the years, I have realized that my entire extended family is neurodivergent. My relationships with neurodiverse family and friends have been my personal training ground for understanding and helping partners and couples in their own relationships.
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