This Is Woman's Work with Nicole Kalil How To Listen When Your Parts Speak (IFS Therapy + Ancestral Wisdom) with Tamala Floyd | 376
In this episode of This Is Woman’s Work, Nicole sits down with Tamala Floyd - psychotherapist, Internal Family Systems (IFS) Lead Trainer, author, and longtime guide for healing trauma and inherited burdens—to break down what “parts work” actually is (spoiler: you’re not broken, you’re multidimensional). Tamala explains how our protector parts (critic, caretaker, people-pleaser) form to keep our wounded parts safe—and how real healing starts when you stop silencing them and start listening.
What You’ll Learn The Big Takeaway:
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What Internal Family Systems (IFS) is—and why “having parts” is normal, not dysfunctional
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The difference between Self (your calm, grounded core) and parts (your protective strategies)
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How to unblend from parts so you’re not being driven by fear, approval-seeking, or old survival roles
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What it looks like to heal wounded parts through witnessing, compassion, and unburdening
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A practical workaround if talking to your parts feels “too weird” (drawing, objects, externalizing)
Healing isn’t about becoming one perfect, polished “whole” person. It’s about becoming the leader of your internal system—with your parts on the bus, but not driving the bus.
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Connect with Tamala:
Website: https://tamalafloyd.com/about/
The Living Ancestor Retreat: https://mailchi.mp/tamalafloyd.com/listeningwhenpartsspeakretreat-17566020
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