The SelfWork Podcast 253 SelfWork: The Loss of Innocence: When Mom or Dad Sexually Abuses
Welcome to a difficult episode of SelfWork, sponsored by BetterHelp. First of all, I need to state a trigger/content warning for anyone listening who was forced manipulatively, physically or sexually into a sexual relationship with a parent or grandparent.
I’ve done an episode on sibling sexual abuse and received a lot of feedback, thanking me for explaining the feelings associated with being molested by a brother or sister. Today, we’re going to widen the discussion to familial incest, and will focus on when a parent sexualizes the relationship they have a with a child. I’ll use the case histories of people I’ve worked with, both women and men, to describe what happened to them, and how they’ve come to understand and heal their very deep wounds of never feeling safe or loved for who they were, but for what they could “do” or were forced to do for a parent, a grandparent, an aunt or an uncle. – literally being treated like an object there to be controlled and manipulated.
The international sexual abuse hotline links can be found below in your show notes.
Today’s listener email is from a listener who’s identified with borderline personality disorder and who's struggling with self-forgiveness.
Important Links:
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RAINN statistics on incest and sexual abuse
A SelfWork episode on confronting your abuser
Melissa Bradley-Ball, sexual abuse expert, speaking on healing from abuse
SelfWork episode on self-forgiveness
If you’ve been abused, there are several excellent books that might help you. “The Courage To Heal” by Laura Davis and “Waking The Tiger” by Peter Levine are two classics. Many rape crisis centers also run free groups for victims, as do individual counselors. There are chat groups on Twitter — use the hashtag #CSA. Child Abuse Hotlines can be found here.
International Abuse Hotlines
https://www.childhelplineinternational.org/child-helplines/child-helpline-network/
https://www.hotpeachpages.net/a/countries.html
https://victimconnect.org/resources/national-hotlines/
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