Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2035: The Road to Reconciliation: Get Out of the Middle of the Picture by Keith Wilson on Understanding and Forgiving
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Jan 16, 2024 Keith Wilson, a transformative counselor, discusses a unique approach to healing difficult familial relationships. He suggests viewing parents as individuals separate from their roles, fostering empathy and potential forgiveness. By shifting perspectives and removing emotions, challenging relationships can be improved, including those with parents.
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Call Parents By Name
- Stop calling a parent "my mother" when you tell the story and use their name instead.
- Naming them lets you see them as a separate adult and reduces childlike catastrophizing.
Tell Their Full Story
- Tell your parent's whole life story from their point of view, not just parts that affect you.
- Fill gaps by asking or reasonably guessing to build context and empathy.
Shift From Child To Adult Perspective
- Viewing the parent as an independent person reveals broader context for their choices.
- This reframes anger into adult-to-adult feelings rather than child-to-parent rage.