Her Best Self: Freedom from Disordered Eating, Body Obsession & Perfectionism EP 231.5: Standing in Agreement ~ How to Breakup with the Lies That Keep You Stuck in Eating Disorder Behaviors **Must Listen Fav!**
Ready to break the lies that have kept you trapped in disordered eating? In this fire-filled episode, Lindsey delivers one golden nugget that could change everything: it's time to evaluate your agreement. The direction of your life is based on agreements you've made along the way - and if you're still stuck, you're standing in agreement with lies that no longer serve you. Learn how to fall out of agreement with false beliefs and make the most powerful commitment you'll ever make: putting yourself first and choosing recovery.
Key Takeaways- The direction of your life is based on agreements you've made along the way
- You must fall out of agreement with lies that keep you trapped
- No one's coming to save you - this agreement is yours to make
- The goal of life is living in agreement with who you were made to be
- You must give yourself permission to succeed instead of searching for evidence of failure
- Definition: A meeting of the mind, acceptance and action of future commitment
- The most powerful commitment: putting yourself first
- A transaction of trust and faith from where you are to where you want to be
- The difference between silent self-agreements and shared commitments
- You're not living in agreement with who you are - you're believing lies about who you need to be
- The division between heart (wanting freedom) and mind (feeling unable to give up control)
- Living at war with yourself instead of in alignment
- How lies about perfection, size, and worth create false agreements
- "You're not good enough"
- "You have to be perfect"
- "You have to be the smallest"
- "You're going to gain all this weight and hate your life"
- "You're just not ever going to change"
- Choosing to stand in agreement in both heart and mind
- Rebuking the division between what you want and what you believe is possible
- The courage required to step forward with hope and trust
- Making the choice to follow through no matter what it takes
- "No one's coming to save you" - hard truth about personal responsibility
- No one will give you a permission slip to freedom
- This life is yours and yours alone
- When you accept 100% responsibility, you gain your power back
Lindsey challenges you to ask:
- Are you fighting FOR yourself or AGAINST yourself?
- Are you fighting FOR recovery or against it?
- Are you fighting FOR your future or against it?
- Are you standing in your truth or believing the enemy's lies?
- Which side are you agreeing with?
- Matthew 18:19: "If two of you agree here on Earth about anything you ask for, it will be done"
- Lindsey stands in agreement with listeners (1 + 1 = 2)
- The enemy wants to kill, steal, and destroy - but you can stand against it
- Your obligation to stand no matter what opposition comes
- "Life is too short, sister, to spend it at war with you."
- "The goal of this life is living in agreement with who you are."
- "No one's coming to save you. No one has got a life vest for you."
- "You must give yourself permission to succeed instead of searching for evidence of why you're going to fail."
- "It is my duty. It is my destiny. It is in my design to become the woman I was created to be."
Declaration #1: "Even though I don't know what it's like yet to break free from this disordered relationship that I have with food and myself, I can rebuke the lies that I've been believing. Today I deeply choose to love and accept and honor myself and my body. Today I choose to stand in agreement."
Declaration #2: "It is my duty. It is my destiny. It is in my design to become the woman I was created to be. I break the agreement of lies that I've been believing for so long. I break them because I'm free to be me. This is my time and today is my day to honor me."
Journal Prompts for Your Agreement- "What lies am I believing that I need to fall out of agreement with?"
- "What must I give up in order to heal my life?"
- "Who am I standing in agreement with?"
- "What do I truly want for my future self?"
- "What evidence am I searching for that I'll fail, and how can I redirect this?"
Step 1: Identify what you truly want (or start with what you no longer want) Step 2: List the lies and beliefs that are keeping you trapped Step 3: Fall out of agreement with these false beliefs Step 4: Make your personal treaty with your future self Step 5: Stand in agreement daily, even when opposition comes
Signs You Need to Make This Agreement- You feel divided between wanting freedom and feeling unable to change
- You're searching for evidence of why recovery won't work for you
- You're still believing lies about your worth, body, or ability to heal
- You're waiting for someone else to give you permission to recover
- You're fighting against yourself instead of for yourself
- You stop giving your power away to the eating disorder voice
- You gain the courage to take action aligned with your values
- You break the chains of false beliefs that have controlled your life
- You start living in alignment with who you were created to be
- Your best days become ahead of you, not behind you
- Get out a journal and write down your personal agreement
- Identify which lies you need to fall out of agreement with
- Share your commitment in the Her Best Self Society Facebook community
- Apply for coaching support at herbestself.co to help you honor your agreement daily
If you're making a personal commitment today to step into your very best self, share it in the Her Best Self Society Facebook community at www.herbestselfsociety.com.
Need support honoring your agreement? Fill out a client application at www.herbestself.co and jump on a call to see if coaching can help you take daily actions that serve your agreement and push you forward.
Connect with Lindsey- Website: www.herbestself.co
- Private Facebook Community: www.herbestselfsociety.com
- Client Applications: www.herbestself.co/services
Lindsey Nichol is a former competitive figure skater turned God-led entrepreneur, boy mom, and digital CEO. She made her own life-changing agreement years ago and now helps women break free from the lies that keep them trapped in disordered eating patterns.
If this episode fired you up and you're ready to make your agreement, please leave a rating and review! Your support helps more women discover they have the power to break the chains of false beliefs.
*While I am a certified health coach, anorexia survivor & eating disorder recovery coach, I do not intend the use of this message to serve as medical advice. Please refer to the disclaimer here in the show & be sure to contact a licensed clinical provider if you are struggling with an eating disorder.