Elevator Systems - Bowen Family Systems Theory

S3 Ep7 Marriage with Phil Klever

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Aug 19, 2025
Phil Klever, a seasoned researcher with over two decades of experience in studying marriages through Bowen family systems theory, joins the discussion. He examines the critical balance between individual identity and connection within marriage, emphasizing the influence of multi-generational dynamics. Phil shares insights on navigating conflict and emotional disconnect, while revealing how past patterns shape current relationships. Personal anecdotes, like meeting in-laws, illustrate the complexities couples face, encouraging deeper self-awareness for healthier partnerships.
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INSIGHT

Marriage Intensifies Fusion

  • Fusion reaches its greatest intensity in marriage, producing powerful togetherness and loss of self.
  • Bowen theory broadens the lens beyond the couple to include multigenerational influences on that fusion.
INSIGHT

Look To Family Patterns

  • Examine the family-of-origin patterns to predict how a partner manages work, money, and sensitivity.
  • Multigenerational expectations show up in marriage and shape how couples handle conflict and roles.
ADVICE

Broaden Perspective On Differences

  • Do broaden your perspective when differences emerge instead of blaming your partner.
  • Use Bowen ideas to see problems as how you manage differences, not just the other's behavior.
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