This Jungian Life Podcast The Problem with Problems: solve or avoid?
The Unsolvable Baby Sleep Problem
- Lisa Marciano recounts her frustration as a new mother with a baby who wouldn't sleep.
- Despite receiving unhelpful advice, she realized the problem would resolve itself eventually.
Outgrowing Problems
- We don't solve problems; we outgrow them, according to Jung.
- This suggests personal growth allows us to transcend challenges.
A Late-Night Medical Emergency
- Deborah Stewart shares a story about a late-night call regarding her son's appendicitis diagnosis.
- Despite the stressful situation, she made a quick decision to proceed with surgery.
Problems can pester, persist and plague. They range from short-lived to chronic, bothersome to heart-wrenching, resolvable to unalterable. Problems cause what Jungian analyst and author James Hollis refers to as the three As: ambiguity, ambivalence, and anxiety. Ambiguity arises when a problem is complex and confusing, demanding action without certainty. Ambivalence is a state of conflicted feelings, often related to immediate versus long-term gratification. Anxiety is worry and doubt about whether we can meet a challenge or achieve a desired outcome. Problems confront us with a basic choice: action or avoidance—but action without analysis can also be a form of avoidance. We must accept the situation, tolerate the tension, and observe external and internal factors before identifying options. Jung says, “The most intense conflicts if overcome, leave behind a sense of security and calm that is not easily disturbed. It is just these intense conflicts and their conflagration which are needed to produce valuable and lasting results.”
Here’s the dream we analyzed:
“I was pregnant, and I went to a cafe with my husband. I went away and had my baby. I went to a party where some family and friends were welcoming the baby. I cradled a small plastic box with a transparent plastic lid. There were about six spaces pressed into the foam of the box and my baby, which was a tiny bee, was in the right bottom corner of the case. As the party was ending, family members encouraged me to let the bee out of the case. My husband said to do what I thought was right. I opened the case, and we left the party hall, the bee flying above us. When we got outside, it flew away. I ran to keep up with it, and it flew to a huge wooden and plexiglass hive on the lawn. My baby bee flew to a bigger bee, circled it, and was imitating it, even getting onto the big bee’s back while it flew. I wanted to catch my bee but was intimidated by the bigger bee. They flew off in a swarm with others. My husband told me it was time to go. I walked away, and we drove away with my in-laws. When we were alone again, I couldn’t stop crying. My husband took me to the same cafe, but I could hardly walk because I was crying so much. The server said I looked good for just having had a baby. I went to the bathroom, sobbing and feeling very swollen all over. I looked at my puffy face in the mirror and felt like I looked new.”
REFERENCES:
Edwards Deming: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/W._Edwards_Deming
Video: It’s Not About the Nail:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-4EDhdAHrOg
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