Conversations from the Heart #125 - When Saying "No" Brings Up Old Fears
Dec 22, 2025
Paul and Jeremy share their personal journeys with boundaries and the anxieties that come with saying 'no.' Paul learns the importance of recognizing when a conversation has run its course, while Jeremy delves into childhood conditioning about commitments and the fear of disappointing others. Their discussions reveal how past experiences influence present relationships and provide listeners with insightful tools for self-advocacy. This heartfelt conversation encourages embracing vulnerability and kindness, especially during the holiday season.
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Boundaries Create, Not Cut, Connection
- Boundaries are not the same as disconnection; they invite fuller presence into relationship.
- Asserting limits can actually create space for more authentic connection and partnership.
Do A Process Check To End Conversations
- Use a quick process check when a conversation feels like it’s shifting or ending.
- Ask where each person is at and state your experience before deciding to pause or continue.
Name Your State Before Moving On
- Name what you’re actually feeling (e.g., I’m feeling complete or checked out) and invite the other person to share.
- Pause and use that shared data to decide together whether to move on or linger.