Myths About Parenting Littles - Julietta Skoog [388]
Feb 14, 2023
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Julietta Skoog, an expert in parenting littles, busts myths about parenting toddlers and preschoolers. Topics include understanding and connecting with children, establishing a predictable routine, challenges and misconceptions of parenting young children, involving children in household chores, and the importance of listening and positive discipline.
Establishing routines and inviting children to contribute in household tasks helps develop their independence and capability.
Shifting mindset and finding connection during challenging moments builds strong relationships and supports children's growth.
Tackling power struggles by breaking tasks into smaller steps and maintaining boundaries while fostering positive and cooperative dynamics.
Deep dives
Establishing Routines and Inviting Contribution
One key insight from the podcast episode is the importance of establishing routines and inviting children to contribute. This involves creating designated times for cleaning or engaging in household tasks, such as before meals or at the end of the day. By making it a routine, children learn to expect and participate in these activities. To make it more enjoyable, parents can use strategies like visual routines, spinning contribution wheels, or playing games like 'I Spy'. It's essential to be patient and understanding, recognizing that children are still practicing and developing their executive functions. By involving children from an early age, they become more capable and independent as they grow.
Shifting Expectations and Finding Connection
Another key point discussed in the episode is the need for a mindset shift and finding connection with children, especially during challenging moments. Rather than perceiving parenting as a phase to 'get through', it's important to embrace the present and see it as an opportunity to build strong relationships. Parents are encouraged to slow down, be playful, and find ways to connect during everyday activities. This may involve adjusting expectations, using humor, offering choices, and engaging in physical play. By recognizing that children are still learning and practicing, parents can create a positive and supportive environment that fosters growth and independence.
Handling Power Struggles with Sliced Approach
The podcast also addresses power struggles and offers strategies to tackle them effectively. Instead of reinforcing bad behavior, parents are urged to slice issues into smaller, more manageable pieces. This means breaking down requests or tasks into smaller, achievable steps to avoid overwhelming children. It's important to maintain boundaries and not give in to negative behavior, but also find opportunities to connect and redirect their attention. By finding alternative ways to approach and resolve conflicts, parents can create a more positive and cooperative dynamic with their children.
Connecting with Kids and Encouraging Autonomy
The podcast episode delves into the importance of connecting with kids and encouraging their autonomy. By getting into their world and understanding their perspective, parents can foster a stronger connection and build trust with their children. This connection leads to better cooperation, reduced misbehavior, and enhanced emotional well-being. The episode emphasizes the value of treating discipline as a teaching opportunity and focusing on positive reinforcement. By listening to kids, setting realistic expectations, and making tasks fun, parents can create an environment that supports their children's development and fosters a sense of capability and independence.
Involving Toddlers in Household Chores
Another key topic discussed in the podcast is involving toddlers in household chores. Starting from an early age, parents can introduce age-appropriate tasks and gradually increase their involvement as their capabilities grow. The emphasis is on making these activities enjoyable and manageable for the child, setting realistic expectations, and focusing on progress rather than perfection. By incorporating playfulness, routines, and connection strategies, such as engaging the child's interests and providing a sense of autonomy, parents can empower their toddlers to contribute to the household and develop important life skills.
Little kids can be so challenging! Sometimes it feels like a time to just get through—but wait, there are many powerful seeds to be planted in this very important time. In this episode I talk to Julieta Skoog and she busts the myths of parenting littles, like they’re “too little to help.” This is a must listen episode for parents of toddlers and preschoolers!
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As a school psychologist, school counselor, and parent coach, Julietta has helped families for over 20 years, bringing her unique ability to translate research, child development, and Positive Discipline principles into everyday solutions.
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