The Adversity Advantage with Doug Bopst How To Spot The Narcissist's Playbook & Take Your Power Back | Dr. Jerry Wise
May 12, 2025
Dr. Jerry Wise, a seasoned family systems and self-differentiation expert, shares insights from over 45 years of therapeutic experience. He reveals the subtle manipulation tactics employed by narcissists and why defending yourself against them is futile. Jerry discusses the hidden scars left by narcissistic parents and offers healing strategies for survivors. Listeners learn about identifying red flags in relationships and the potential for narcissists to change—challenging common misconceptions about their behaviors.
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Don't Defend Narcissists
- Avoid defending yourself or arguing with a narcissist as it won't change them.
- Stay calm and non-reactive instead of trying to convince them they are wrong.
Detach from Narcissist Insults
- Learn to detach emotionally from a narcissist’s hurtful words.
- Reframe insults as meaningless noise to protect your inner boundaries.
Long-Term Effects of Narcissistic Parenting
- Adults raised by narcissists often struggle with low self-esteem and a sense of suffocation.
- They may feel paralyzed by anxiety rooted in childhood enmeshment and control.