Covert narcissistic parenting can leave deep emotional scars on children. Perfect is the unattainable goal they chase, leaving them feeling inadequate. They often struggle with criticism, which can lead to misplaced anger and heightened sensitivity. The psychological impact creates confusion and low self-worth, often perpetuated by a critical parent. It's crucial to recognize these effects not only for personal healing but also to foster a healthier environment for the next generation.
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Renee's Childhood Bullying Story
Renee Swanson shared a childhood story of being bullied on a basketball team, which led her to quit the sport entirely.
This experience had a lasting effect on her confidence, especially in physical activities and team sports.
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Dual Persona of Narcissistic Parents
Covert narcissistic parents act like bullies at home but show a different loving face to outsiders.
This dual persona traps the child who feels isolated and unheard because no one believes their experience.
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Perfectionism and Criticism in Victims
Children of covert narcissistic parents hold themselves to impossible standards of perfection despite knowing it's unachievable.
They extend these perfectionist expectations to others and react harshly to any criticism, reflecting deep internal shame.
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Covert narcissists are bullies as parents, and their impact on the children is traumatic and long-lasting.
For those listening who were raised by a covert narcissistic parent, identifying these effects within you is vital. This allows you to start that process of no longer blaming yourself and healing that internal shame. You do matter! You are good enough! This is not your fault!
For those listening who are parenting with a covert narcissistic parent, please learn the effects this is having on your children. You will see these signs in them. They will need your help in identifying them and working through them. Your kids do matter! They are good enough! This is certainly not their fault!
3 effects of Covert Narcissistic Parenting
While the child knows that perfect does not exist, it is still their goal.
The child holds others around them to that same level of perfect as well.
The child cannot handle criticism.
In this episode, I explore these effects in greater detail. In upcoming episodes, I will give you strategies on how to work through these effects and find healing for the trauma within.
I am Renee Swanson, and I help people recover from covert narcissistic abuse.
Are you tired of feeling isolated and alone?
Are you searching for people who get it?
Are you confused, reactive and unsure what to do?
Are you running in circles in your mind?
Are you worried for your kids and the effect this is having on them?
Do you want to know how not to raise another narcissist in this world?
I can help you! I offer both group and individual coaching, which you can find at www.covertnarcissism.com
Renee Swanson, Certified Coach and Advocate for Victims of Covert Narcissistic Abuse
The Covert Narcissism Podcast