TED Talks Daily How to unlock your flirting superpowers | Francesca Hogi
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Nov 14, 2025 
Francesca Hogi, a love coach and dating expert, redefines flirting as a genuine means of human connection. She highlights how flirting can make others feel seen and special, moving beyond its negative stigma. With insights from her extensive experience, she shares that flirting isn't just for extroverts and offers introverts an edge by emphasizing authenticity. Francesca also discusses the importance of playfulness, presence, and attentive listening, providing practical tips on compliments and imaginative questions to deepen connections.
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Flirting Reimagined As Connection
- Francesca Hogi reframes flirting as words and actions that make someone feel seen, special, and acknowledged.
- This definition shifts flirting from manipulation to genuine human connection.
Introverts Can Be Excellent Flirts
- You don't need to be the most confident person to be a good flirt, and introverts may have an advantage.
- Flirting succeeds when it feels genuinely inspired by the other person rather than performative confidence.
From Match.com Dates To Curiosity
- Francesca describes learning to date by switching from small talk to curious, vulnerable questions after many Match.com dates.
- Her change in approach led to more second dates and taught her that flirting improved romantic outcomes.