Respectful Parenting: Janet Lansbury Unruffled

The Most Helpful Response When Your Child Gets Hurt (4 Guidelines)

Jan 28, 2020

In this insightful discussion, Janet, a mindful parenting expert, shares practical guidelines for responding when children get hurt. She emphasizes the importance of maintaining calmness and validating emotions to foster resilience. Janet addresses the impact of adult reactions on a child's emotional state, particularly when they feel overwhelmed after an injury. Throughout the conversation, she provides empowering responses and strategies to help parents support their kids in processing these experiences effectively.

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Quick takeaways

A child's emotional response to getting hurt is often influenced more by adult reactions than by the incident itself.

Utilizing mindful guidelines, such as maintaining calmness and discussing feelings after an incident, aids children's emotional processing.

Deep dives

Understanding Children's Reactions

Children often react differently to incidents of getting hurt, influenced by their environment and the reactions of adults around them. An example was cited where a child, after being pushed, became upset not due to the incident itself, but because of the worried responses from nearby adults. This response highlights the importance of adult reactions, as children may interpret extreme concern as an indication that something is seriously wrong. Understanding that children absorb these cues more slowly can help parents tailor their responses to support their child's emotional processing.

Intro

2min

Guidelines for Responding to a Child's Injuries

16min

Empowering Responses to Children's Hurts

4min

Janet offers basic guidelines for responding mindfully when children get hurt, whether by accident or as the result of another child's behavior. She also addresses the specifics in a parent's note about her son's emotional responses to getting pushed or hit when she isn't close enough to prevent it. She says he seems "shocked" but fine, but he falls apart when adults surround him and express their urgent concern. “I can tell that it’s the reactions from the adults that has really upset and scared him.” While she hopes to prevent future events like this from happening in the first place, she knows that won’t always be possible, and she wonders how Janet would advise calming her son in the aftermath.

For more advice on common parenting issues, please check out Janet's best-selling books on Audible, FREE with a 30-day trial membership if you use this link: adbl.co/2OBVztZ.

Paperbacks and e-books are also available at Amazon, Google Play, Barnes & Noble and Apple Books.

Janet's exclusive audio series "Sessions" is available for download. This is a collection of recorded one-on-one consultations with parents discussing their most immediate and pressing concerns (www.SessionsAudio.com).

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