On Attachment #140: How to Not Lose Yourself in a New Relationship
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May 14, 2024 Tips on maintaining your identity in a new relationship for those with anxious attachment styles. Avoid over-fixating on the connection to the detriment of other aspects of life. Emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care to establish a balanced and sustainable connection.
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Normal Excitement in New Relationships
- New relationships naturally induce intense excitement due to chemical responses like dopamine.
- This excitement is normal and should not be immediately viewed negatively even if you have anxious attachment.
Anxious Attachment Risks Overfocus
- Anxious attachment can cause overwhelming focus on the new relationship, neglecting other life areas.
- This extreme focus might mismatch the relationship pace and increase vulnerability when issues arise.
High Stakes Hurt Vulnerability
- Centering your whole life around a new partner raises stakes and pressure on that connection.
- This can lead to devastating feelings and lowered self-worth if the relationship falters or ends.