The Therapy Edit Ask Anna- how can I be more assertive in my relationship?
Jan 13, 2025
In this engaging discussion, Dr. Morgan Cutlip, a relationship expert and psychologist, helps listeners tackle assertiveness in romantic relationships. She emphasizes the importance of announcing changes to invite partner support. Expecting pushback is key, as new boundaries may initially inconvenience your partner. With a focus on self-care, Dr. Cutlip explains how meeting your own needs enhances relationship quality. They also discuss the significance of clarity in communication, encouraging specificity when expressing needs.
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Realising You Must Self-Advocate
- Dr. Morgan Cutlip relates to the listener who outsourced her needs and then resented others.
- She realised no one else would advocate for her, so she began to own and voice her needs.
Announce Your Change
- Tell your partner you're intentionally changing and will start speaking up more.
- Ask for their support and depersonalize their reactions as you practice asserting yourself.
Expect Temporary Pushback
- Changing your behaviour will temporarily disrupt the relationship's homeostasis.
- Push through the initial tension so your partner can experience the benefits of your greater wellbeing.
