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Episode #24: The implications of perfectionism and confidence on the good life, with Homaira Kabir

Apr 19, 2023

Delving into the connection between confidence and perfectionism, Homaira Kabir discusses building optimal confidence, overcoming self-doubt, and the impact of attachment styles on implicit beliefs. She emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, self-connection, and empowering beliefs for personal growth, highlighting the transformative power of self-understanding.

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Homaira Kabir

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Quick takeaways

Recognize strengths in perfectionism for personal growth.

Embrace self-compassion to navigate maladaptive behaviors.

Prioritize self-awareness and emotional repair for flourishing.

Deep dives

Challenging Maladaptive Behaviors with Positive Understanding

Challenging maladaptive behaviors such as perfectionism involves understanding their origins and embracing self-compassion. By recognizing the strengths and learnings gained from these tendencies, individuals can navigate adaptive and maladaptive aspects. Leveraging the drive mode of sympathetic responses through self-acceptance and values-based actions shifts the focus toward growth.

Introduction

2min

Exploring Human Flourishing and Confidence

10min

Exploring Feedback, Control, and Confidence in Building Sandcastles

3min

Building Confidence and Overcoming Doubt

8min

Exploring the Impact of Attachment Styles and Early Experiences on Implicit Beliefs

5min

Building Optimal Confidence and Overcoming Perfectionism

24min

While our drive for excellence and perfectionism can help us to strive for great results and improvement, it can also come at a cost. On the show today, we welcome Homaira Kabir, life coach, speaker, and author of the new book Goodbye, Perfect. Homaira has a master's degree in coaching psychology, positive psychology, and the scientific study of human flourishing, and is also the founder and CEO of The Goodbye Perfect Project.

In our conversation with Homaira, we delve into her work, how she helps her clients, and some of the subject matter from her inspiring book. Our guest does an outstanding job of explaining the concepts of confidence and perfectionism and the connection between these two forces within us. She also introduces the idea of 'secure' striving, how to fall in love with yourself, and so much more. Make sure to tune in to catch it all!

Key Points From This Episode:

Homaira opens by sharing some of her key ideas about flourishing.
Unpacking the metaphor of flourishing as a fruit-bearing tree.
The importance of confidence on the path to flourishing.
Zooming in on Homaira's use of the term mastery.
How Homaira approaches building confidence with her female clients.
The interesting interaction between perfectionism and confidence.
Understanding the explicit and implicit sides of confidence.
Homaira’s strategies for building optimal confidence.
The 'dual work' that is necessary to change our beliefs through our behavior.
A comprehensive explanation of perfection and how it hinders our ability to flourish.
How to get started on the journey of growth and confidence!
The ideas of mattering, meaning, and purpose.
Connecting with ourselves in the right way and emotionally repairing damages.
A closing lesson in compassionate awareness and practical steps for putting it into action.
How and where to find and connect with Homaira online!