E329. Why Men Feel Lost Without Marriage - Conn Carroll

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Mar 13, 2025

Conn Carroll, author of "Sex and the Citizen," dives into the critical role of marriage in society. He discusses the historical evolution from hunter-gatherer monogamy to modern complexities, revealing how dating apps influence men's identity and purpose. Carroll argues that the decline of marriage threatens fertility rates and democracy. They explore why cohabitation can lead to income inequality, and how policies should encourage marriage among young people, framing it as vital for community cohesion and societal stability.

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INSIGHT

Marriage and Humanity

Marriage is as old as humanity itself, potentially being a key factor in human evolution.
Monogamous pair bonds allowed for cooperative care, larger brains, and social learning.

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Historical Marriage Practices

No known hunter-gatherer tribes existed without marriage practices, indicating its universality.
Polygamy became prevalent with the advent of agriculture and increased wealth inequality.

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Sex at Dawn at Playboy

Bridget Phetasy mentions "Sex at Dawn" as required reading during her time at Playboy.
The book promotes the idea that humans were naturally polygamous.

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Bridget sits down with Conn Carroll, author of Sex and the Citizen: How the Assault on Marriage Is Destroying Democracy, for a discussion about the history and purpose of marriage, why it's a fundamental part of what makes us human, monogamy vs. polygamy, how dating apps turn certain men into digital sultans, and how the decline of "I do" threatens everything from fertility rates to democracy itself. They cover ancient hunter-gatherer love stories, modern-day male purposelessness, porn and gambling addictions, why the government should be rolling back policies that disincentivize young people from getting married, why cohabitation instead of marriage leads to income inequalities, the magic of marriage in our communities and why it’s the glue holding society together.

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