How to Get the Girl: By the Ask Women Podcast Ep. 535 Sexual Shame No More!
Jul 8, 2025
Join Dr. Tina Shermer, a certified sex therapist and bestselling author, as she confronts the heavy burden of sexual shame that often plagues men. She explains how this shame can stem from upbringing and cultural pressures, ultimately affecting dating confidence. Throughout the dialogue, Dr. Shermer emphasizes the power of open discussions around sex, reframing perceptions, and embracing body autonomy. Listeners are left inspired to turn their dating struggles into pathways for deeper connections and greater self-acceptance.
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Origins of Sexual Shame
- Sexual shame often originates from early childhood experiences where natural body curiosity is met with silence or negativity.
- Lack of open, positive communication about genitals creates shame and discomfort around sexuality.
Express Attraction Respectfully
- Express attraction by showing that you see and appreciate the whole person, not just physical parts.
- Build safety and respect through listening and honoring boundaries to foster comfort and openness in relationships.
Difference Between Shame and Guilt
- Shame makes people feel unworthy and withdrawn by implying their core self is bad.
- Guilt differs as it motivates positive change based on one's personal ethics, rather than a feeling of inherent defect.
