Hidden Brain The Cure for Self-Importance
Aug 5, 2024
Daryl Van Tongeren, a psychologist specializing in humility, reveals how this underrated quality can profoundly affect workplace dynamics and personal relationships. They discuss the allure of charisma versus the lasting impact of humility on social evolution. Daryl shares insights on how humble partners boost commitment and satisfaction in romantic ties and the importance of empathy in communication. The conversation also touches on naive realism, encouraging listeners to question their perceptions and embrace the power of self-reflection for healthier connections.
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The Intellectual Divide
- Daryl Van Tongeren felt a divide between his intellectual pursuits and his family's working-class values.
- He initially felt condescending towards his father's disinterest in reading, creating a barrier between them.
Perspective-Taking
- Daryl realized his failure to understand his dad's perspective was hurting their relationship.
- Owning his part in the problem allowed for positive change.
A Humility Check
- Daryl's wife rated his humility a four out of ten, surprising him.
- He realized his actions, prioritizing a run over a pre-planned beach trip, justified her rating.