Twice exceptional: Raising a gifted son with ADHD (Emily’s story)
Feb 7, 2023
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Emily Hamblin, a dedicated mother and co-host of the Enlightening Motherhood podcast, shares her journey raising her gifted son, Jack, who also has ADHD. She discusses the early signs of his intense emotions and the pivotal moment she recognized ADHD as a critical piece to his puzzle. The conversation highlights the complexities of parenting a twice-exceptional child and reframes ADHD traits as potential strengths. Emily advocates for compassion in understanding neurodiversity, encouraging parents to embrace the uniqueness of their children.
Emily's discovery that her gifted son has ADHD highlights the importance of recognizing twice-exceptional individuals for appropriate support.
The podcast emphasizes that reframing ADHD behaviors as communication challenges fosters better relationships and understanding between parents and children.
Deep dives
Increase in ADHD Diagnoses Among Women
Since 2020, there has been a significant increase in ADHD diagnoses among adult women, nearly doubling as awareness of the condition grows. Despite this rise, many women remain underdiagnosed, highlighting a systemic issue in recognizing ADHD in females. This underdiagnosis often leads to a lack of support for women navigating ADHD, which can affect their relationships and overall quality of life. The podcast emphasizes the importance of raising awareness and providing resources tailored specifically for women with ADHD to facilitate their understanding and management of the condition.
Recognizing ADHD in Children
The journey of identifying ADHD in children, especially those who are gifted, can be complex and often misunderstood. An illustrative story shared involves a mother observing her son, Jack, exhibiting intense emotional responses and behaviors that did not align with his academic capabilities. Initial assumptions about his behavior led to misconceptions about his capabilities, delaying the recognition of ADHD. The realization that gifted children can also struggle with ADHD is crucial, as identifying these symptoms early can lead to appropriate interventions and support.
Transforming Mindsets Around ADHD
A shift in mindset is essential when dealing with ADHD, moving from viewing behaviors as negative to seeing them as forms of communication or challenges to navigate. Parents are encouraged to understand that their children's actions are not deliberate misbehavior but rather manifestations of underlying issues related to ADHD. This compassionate approach fosters better relationships between parents and children and helps develop necessary skills without judgment. The podcast stresses the importance of self-awareness and empathy in coping with ADHD dynamics in everyday life, including recognizing one’s own challenges.
From a very young age, Emily Hamblin’s son would have meltdowns and get intensely angry. He was also really bright. He was ahead of the curve academically and scored in the 99th percentile on standardized testing. His teachers would say he was just “smart and quirky.” That didn’t sit right with Emily, though. She knew something else was going on.
Then one day, a friend suggested that Emily look into ADHD. Emily was skeptical at first. But when she learned more, it was clear that this was the missing puzzle piece. Her son was twice exceptional: He’s gifted AND he has ADHD. And this discovery even helped Emily recognize ADHD symptoms in herself.
Emily co-hosts a podcast called Enlightening Motherhood, which aims to help moms who are overwhelmed by their kids’ big emotions. Listen in to hear how Emily reframes ADHD symptoms in a positive light.
Understood is a nonprofit organization dedicated to empowering people with learning and thinking differences, like ADHD and dyslexia. If you want to help us continue this work, donate at understood.org/give
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