The Chris LoCurto Show 145 | How To Worry No More With Bruce Van Horn
Aug 28, 2015
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Today on the show we've got Bruce Van Horn. He has written the book, Worry No More, which is The 4 Steps to Stop Worrying and Start Living. The opening of the book is a dedication to his boys. It reads: "Because you deserve the best of me that I seek to become the fullest expression of who I was created to be. I love you, Dad." POWERFUL!
Bruce has had lots and lots of cause to worry in his life. February 17th of 2014, 9:22 in the morning, he put his youngest on school bus and had just started to eat breakfast. "I was expecting my doctor to call me with the biopsy results, but he assured me that everything was just going to be fine. The phone rang. I looked at the caller ID and in that instant; I knew exactly what he was going to tell me.I knew that eating breakfast that morning was going to be the last normal thing I would do for a very long time. Sure enough he called and he said, "Bruce, I just have no idea how to tell you this. It all came back bad. You've got stage 4 prostate cancer." Then the wheels just start rolling and life didn’t assume normalcy for a long time after that". I can't even imagine. I'll never forget the day that Bruce texted me. He had just found out. Knowing what he went through, the terrible pain and process yet his faith remained so very strong. We asked Bruce, what is worry? "Worry is using your imagination to create images of what you do not want to see, and/or events that you do not want to occur. It becomes paralyzing. It is like watching a movie. You're creating, scripting, directing, and casting a movie in which you're a victim." When does worry become your dominant thought process? "There are so many things we worry about that we have absolutely no control over. There are certain things though that we worry about that we do have control over. Step 1: WATCH A DIFFERENT MOVIE. Many of us just live our lives unaware that we can indeed control our thoughts." You have that 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day, and researchers have discovered that approximately 75 percent of those are negative.
Step 2: MOVE TO A DIFFERENT STATE
Packing up our belongings and moving a couple hundred miles away might remove us from the source of what we think is some of our worry. That’s not the moving to a different state that I mean. I'm talking about physical and mental state management.
Our bodies have control over our emotions. When we're happy, our bodies move in a certain way. We are expansive. We take up more space. If you will move your body the way you would be moving your body, if you were happy, amazingly, you start to become happy. Step 3: GIVE YOURSELF THE PRESENT-When we're worried, we are thinking about the future. When we're thinking about the future, we are not living in the present.
The only thing that is absolutely guaranteed in this life is that God only gives us right now, this very second. This is why scripture says, "Tomorrow has enough worries of its own." Live today.
Step 4: REST IN P'S - The P’s are perspective, plan, purpose, perfection, and peace. Ultimately, if we can understand that the life that we are experiencing right now we are only able to experience within our own thought process, then we can realize that there may be another perspective, another way. Trusting that there is a plan and that there's a purpose and that the creator of this plan and purpose is perfect means whatever is happening in your life is perfect. It doesn’t mean it's pleasant. If you can wrap your brain around perspective, plan, purpose and perfection, it can’t help but bring peace into your life and that’s ultimately what we want from our worry is peace.
Conclusion:
We live in this paradox and trying to find peace in that paradox. We are 100 percent responsible for our lives as far as the decisions we make, the thoughts we think, and the way we respond to certain event in our lives. We do not usually get to choose the path we get to walk down, but we get to choose how we walk it.
Today on the show we've got Bruce Van Horn. He has written the book, Worry No More, which is The 4 Steps to Stop Worrying and Start Living. The opening of the book is a dedication to his boys. It reads: "Because you deserve the best of me that I seek to become the fullest expression of who I was created to be. I love you, Dad." POWERFUL!
Bruce has had lots and lots of cause to worry in his life. February 17th of 2014, 9:22 in the morning, he put his youngest on school bus and had just started to eat breakfast. "I was expecting my doctor to call me with the biopsy results, but he assured me that everything was just going to be fine. The phone rang. I looked at the caller ID and in that instant; I knew exactly what he was going to tell me.I knew that eating breakfast that morning was going to be the last normal thing I would do for a very long time. Sure enough he called and he said, "Bruce, I just have no idea how to tell you this. It all came back bad. You've got stage 4 prostate cancer." Then the wheels just start rolling and life didn’t assume normalcy for a long time after that". I can't even imagine. I'll never forget the day that Bruce texted me. He had just found out. Knowing what he went through, the terrible pain and process yet his faith remained so very strong. We asked Bruce, what is worry? "Worry is using your imagination to create images of what you do not want to see, and/or events that you do not want to occur. It becomes paralyzing. It is like watching a movie. You're creating, scripting, directing, and casting a movie in which you're a victim." When does worry become your dominant thought process? "There are so many things we worry about that we have absolutely no control over. There are certain things though that we worry about that we do have control over. Step 1: WATCH A DIFFERENT MOVIE. Many of us just live our lives unaware that we can indeed control our thoughts." You have that 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts a day, and researchers have discovered that approximately 75 percent of those are negative.
Step 2: MOVE TO A DIFFERENT STATE
Packing up our belongings and moving a couple hundred miles away might remove us from the source of what we think is some of our worry. That’s not the moving to a different state that I mean. I'm talking about physical and mental state management.
Our bodies have control over our emotions. When we're happy, our bodies move in a certain way. We are expansive. We take up more space. If you will move your body the way you would be moving your body, if you were happy, amazingly, you start to become happy. Step 3: GIVE YOURSELF THE PRESENT-When we're worried, we are thinking about the future. When we're thinking about the future, we are not living in the present.
The only thing that is absolutely guaranteed in this life is that God only gives us right now, this very second. This is why scripture says, "Tomorrow has enough worries of its own." Live today.
Step 4: REST IN P'S - The P’s are perspective, plan, purpose, perfection, and peace. Ultimately, if we can understand that the life that we are experiencing right now we are only able to experience within our own thought process, then we can realize that there may be another perspective, another way. Trusting that there is a plan and that there's a purpose and that the creator of this plan and purpose is perfect means whatever is happening in your life is perfect. It doesn’t mean it's pleasant. If you can wrap your brain around perspective, plan, purpose and perfection, it can’t help but bring peace into your life and that’s ultimately what we want from our worry is peace.
Conclusion:
We live in this paradox and trying to find peace in that paradox. We are 100 percent responsible for our lives as far as the decisions we make, the thoughts we think, and the way we respond to certain event in our lives. We do not usually get to choose the path we get to walk down, but we get to choose how we walk it.