Foreplay Radio – Couples and Sex Therapy 508: I Love You, I Don't Want You
Sep 5, 2025
Love can sometimes exist without the heat of sexual connection. Explore how daily routines can dull erotic attraction and the impact of emotional intimacy on desire. The discussion dives into the balance of friendship and passion, challenging societal influences on relationships. Discover strategies to reclaim intimacy and the significance of vulnerability in rekindling that spark. They highlight practical tips and even a favorite lubricant to enhance pleasure, making it a must-listen for couples wanting to reignite their connection.
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Love Without Sexuality Is A Common Split
- Many people love and respect their partner but cannot feel sexual about them, creating a damaging split between security and eroticism.
- Lori Watson suggests this split is common and worth exploring rather than blaming attraction or appearances.
Protective Splits Between Tenderness And Desire
- The Madonna–whore split shows up across genders and eras where tenderness and eroticism get separated onto different people.
- This defensive split can protect against vulnerability but damages relationship wholeness.
Security And Desire Can Coexist
- Securely attached couples can hold both safety and eroticism by keeping curiosity and novelty alive in each other.
- George Fowler says great lovers find something new in their partner and can shift between roles.