#47 “It’s an Asian thing”: Sexuality, Culture and Appropriation (with Dr. Martha Tara Lee)

On today’s episode of #mensexpleasure, I chat with Dr. Martha Tara Lee. Surrounded by friends who were sexually inhibited and struck by dire lack of positive conversations around sex and sexuality in Singapore, Dr. Martha Tara Lee set out to make a positive difference in embarking on her doctorate in human sexuality before launching Eros Coaching in 2009. Today, she remains dedicated to working with individuals and couples who wish to lead self-actualised and pleasure-filled lives.

She also holds certificates in counselling, coaching and sex therapy, and her fourth degree – a Masters in Counselling in May 2018. In practice for more than nine years, she is the only certified sexuality educator and certified sexuality educator supervisor by the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) in Singapore.

Often cited in the media, Dr. Lee is the appointed Resident Sexologist for PinkLifestyle.com; as well appointed sex expert for Men’s Health Singapore, and Men’s Health Malaysia. She was recognised as one of ‘Top 50 Inspiring Women Under 40′ by Her World in July 2010, and one of ‘Top 100 Inspiring Women’ by CozyCot in March 2011. She has published four books: Love, Sex and Everything In-Between, Orgasmic Yoga, From Princess to Queen and {Un}Inhibited.

Martha works with individuals and couples in private coaching sessions, and conducts her own workshops. She takes prides in making sure all her workshops are also fun, educational, and sex-positive. This comes easily to her because even though she is extremely dedicated and serious about her work, she fundamentally believes that sex is meant to be fun, wonderful, amazing and sacred. As such, this serious light-heartedness has shone through again and again.

Key Points:

- Martha shares about her studies and travels

- How Martha’s work is received in Singapore

- Singaporean culture and sexuality

- Working with “Asian cultural values” in sex therapy

- The stigma of being an Asian woman sex therapist

- Ancient Eastern sexual practices

- Who is teaching Tantra and Neotantra?

- Using Asian culture to make money

- Exploring cultural teachings and honouring your ancestry

Relevant links:

Martha’s Website: www.eroscoaching.com

Martha’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/eroscoaching

Martha’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/drmarthalee

Martha’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/leemartha/

Martha’s Instagram: @drmarthalee