#7: Baby Bust, Millennials Opting-Out of Parenthood with Guest: Stew Friedman
Oct 29, 2013
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Stew Friedman, Wharton Professor and author of Baby Bust, discusses the decline in men planning to have children, challenges faced by new dads, reasons for choosing not to have children, and the importance of open communication and alignment of values for couples trying to balance career, work, and family.
The percentage of college graduates planning to have children has significantly decreased from 80% in 1992 to 42% in 2012, with men now expecting their partners to be actively engaged in both family and career.
Women are opting out of becoming mothers due to the perception that making a positive social impact through work and motherhood are in competition, highlighting the need for cultural and workplace changes to support men in their pursuit of work-life integration.
Deep dives
Changing attitudes towards parenthood
According to a study by Professor Stu Friedman, there has been a significant shift in attitudes towards parenthood between Generation X and Millennials. In 1992, 80% of college graduates planned on having children, whereas in 2012, only 42% had the same plan. The reasons for this change differed between men and women. Men no longer see themselves as the sole breadwinners and expect their partners to be actively engaged in both family and career. However, the increase in conflicts between work and family responsibilities has made the idea of fatherhood more daunting. On the other hand, women have become more focused on making a positive social impact through their work and are opting out of becoming mothers as they perceive these two goals as being in competition.
The challenges men face
The study also showed that men are facing several challenges when it comes to balancing career and family. The pressures and conflicts between work and family have increased, leading to a greater apprehension about becoming a father. Additionally, high levels of student debt and longer working hours have deterred men from planning to have children. Despite these challenges, the study revealed that men today are more egalitarian and interested in becoming more engaged fathers. However, cultural norms and workplace policies need to change to support and encourage men in their pursuit of work-life integration.
Promoting change and creating new narratives
To address the issues highlighted in the study, Professor Friedman emphasizes the importance of individual and societal change. He advocates for open and candid conversations between couples about their values, aspirations, and expectations regarding career and family. He also emphasizes the need for organizations and institutions to adapt and create supportive policies and cultural shifts. Creating new narratives and stories that highlight alternative models of work-life integration, as well as providing social and educational policies that support new parents, are essential steps towards achieving a more balanced and fulfilling approach to work and family life.
Stew Friedman, Wharton Professor and author of Baby Bust: New Choices for Men and Women in Work and Family reveals the astounding discovery that only 42% of 2012 college graduates plan to have children—half the percentage who took the same survey in 1992. We discuss the similarities in the value that both generations place on career and family, and the challenges today's generation reports about the difficulty of "having it all" including high debt, increased work hours, and extreme careers. Professor Friedman gives advice for individuals trying to find their own work-life fit and for organizations trying to manage a changing workforce.
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