We Can Do Hard Things The Trick to Finally Becoming an Adult
Jul 22, 2025
The hosts dissect the six family roles people often inhabit, like the hero or scapegoat, and share their personal experiences with these dynamics. They explore the emotional burden of perfection and the disconnect between societal expectations and internal struggles. Conversations delve into feelings of being the 'black sheep' in families and the complexities of navigating adult relationships. Emphasizing the importance of authentic communication, they challenge traditional narratives, promoting self-reflection and personal growth beyond family roles.
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Family Roles Shape Identities
- Every family forms a system assigning roles to maintain balance amid dysfunction.
- These roles create one-dimensional identities impacting adult challenges and personal growth.
Hero's Struggle with Perfection
- Amanda Doyle was the family hero, proving worth through perfection and achievements.
- She felt invisible misery didn't matter; only outward success validated being okay.
Identified Patient's Burden
- Glennon Doyle identified as the 'identified patient,' seen as broken and sick for family stability.
- The role demands staying ill, which divides blame and keeps dysfunction hidden.