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Amanda Doyle: When Fixing Isn’t Loving

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May 13, 2025
In this conversation, Amanda Doyle, a producer and author, shares her journey of being the reliable caretaker while facing her own challenges, including parenting a neurodivergent child and a breast cancer diagnosis. She discusses the struggle of turning fixing into a form of control, the bravery in accepting love, and the crucial need for vulnerability. Amanda enlightens listeners about breast density awareness and the importance of self-advocacy in healthcare. Ultimately, she emphasizes the grace found in letting others show up for us.
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INSIGHT

Fixing Can Feel Like Control

  • Fixing and helping others can be a form of love but may come across as control to others.
  • This approach can exhaust the helper and alienate those they wish to love.
ANECDOTE

Seeing Son Beyond Challenges

  • Amanda’s son has ADHD and challenges that made her first focus on his struggles and potential blocks.
  • When she shifted to seeing his inherent goodness, she truly saw and loved him as he is.
INSIGHT

Love Sees Perfection in Others

  • Love sees people as already perfect, which is spiritually profound.
  • Mirroring a child's wholeness reflects back love and reveals truths about ourselves.
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