In this episode, Matthew Hussey advises on dating multiple guys and how to handle the dilemma of whether or not to tell a guy you're seeing other men. He emphasizes the importance of communication and transparency, suggesting alternative approaches to encourage commitment without using ultimatums. The podcast explores the complexities of dating multiple people and the ethical considerations of loyalty and monogamy in serious relationships.
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When dating multiple men, focus on showing that you have a busy and fulfilling life outside of dating, without explicitly stating that you are seeing other guys.
Rather than giving ultimatums, hint at the potential for dating other people if the relationship does not progress, as it can motivate guys to take action.
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The importance of not disclosing the details of dating multiple men
When dating multiple men, it is not necessary to explicitly tell them about the others you are seeing. Instead, focus on showing that you have a busy and fulfilling life outside of dating. The key is to make them aware that you have other commitments and passions without explicitly stating that you are dating other guys. By doing so, it allows them to come to their own conclusions and gives them the space to invest more time and effort into the relationship.
Avoiding ultimatums in relationships
Giving ultimatums in relationships is generally not recommended. If you feel the need to give someone an ultimatum, explicitly stating that you are dating other guys is not the best approach. It is better to communicate indirectly by hinting at the potential for dating other people if the relationship does not progress in a more official manner. Most guys tend to back away from existing competition, but the hint of potential competition can motivate them to take action. Rather than relying on ultimatums, focus on building a strong connection and loyalty when the relationship becomes more official.
You’re really into this new guy you’re seeing, but as much as you’d like to take things to the next level, he hasn’t even mentioned commitment. So like the smart Get the Guy student you are ;), you keep your options open and continue to go out with other guys. Now you have a dilemma: Do you tell Mr. Maybe-Right you’re dating other men? And, if so, how will that impact your budding relationship? In today’s episode, I show you how to handle yourself in a graceful way that doesn’t use the situation as an ultimatum, yet still shows him how much you’re in demand.
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