Pardon the Mess with Courtney DeFeo - Christian Motherhood, Biblical Parenting, Raising Christian Kids

Are you overparenting? With Steph Thurling

Feb 6, 2025

42:10

This week’s episode is packed with insights and practical advice for navigating the complexities of parenting during the middle school years. I’m joined by Steph Thurling, and together we dive into balancing love, independence, and the continuous learning process of parenting.

Here are four key takeaways from this episode:

Parenting evolves as children grow, and middle school years often require creative ways to re-engage with your kids.
Allowing children to experience failure helps them develop responsibility and confidence.
Overparenting can hinder independence—parents should guide their children through problems, not shield them from them.
Self-care for parents is crucial to maintaining balance and avoiding guilt in the parenting journey.

Steph Thurling is the executive director of Christian Parenting and the host of the Christian Parenting podcast where she encourages parents every week to be the imperfectly perfect parent God created them to be. She is also an author, speaker, and advocate for empowering parents to create lasting family connections.

I love working alongside Steph at Christian Parenting. She’s a delight and filled with wisdom and encouragement.

Enjoy!

Courtney

(01:57) Navigating Parenting Stages

(06:10) Engaging with Middle Schoolers

(10:07) The Balance of Hovering and Letting Go

(13:57) Preparing for Independence

(18:02) Overparenting: Understanding the Roots

(21:06) Navigating the Challenges of Letting Go in Parenting

(24:35) The Importance of Self-Care and Mom Guilt

(26:54) Recognizing Red Flags in Parenting Dynamics

(28:54) Practical Strategies to Avoid Over-Parenting