Resilient grief, complicated grief, anticipatory grief, disenfranchised grief. These are terms you may or may not be familiar with, but trust me, learning about them will help you and help you understand your friends and family in times of loss and grief. – Which, by the way, is pretty much going on all the time, hand-in-hand with joy and expansion. This human life is filled with grief. Let’s learn from an expert, steeped in her own experience plus backed by research, author of Always a Sibling: The Forgotten Mourner’s Guide to Grief , Annie Sklaver Orenstein.