Jillian on Love Esther Perel: How to Bring The Spark Back in a Relationship.
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Sep 23, 2024 
Esther Perel, a world-renowned psychotherapist and relationship expert, joins the conversation to share her profound insights on desire and attraction. She differentiates between erotic intelligence and emotional intelligence, emphasizing the need for open communication in relationships. Perel highlights the challenges of balancing comfort and excitement, and she discusses how societal norms impact sexual intimacy. With practical tips, she reveals how self-connection can reignite passion, ultimately transforming long-term partnerships.
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Erotic Intelligence Defined
- Erotic intelligence transforms sexuality through imagination and meaning.
- It goes beyond sex acts to being a quality of aliveness, curiosity, and playfulness.
Desire Isn't Always The Deal Breaker
- Many relationships last despite lack of desire due to love, loyalty, or fear.
- Desire discrepancies often coexist with other emotional dynamics that complicate the relationship.
Balance Love's Safety with Desire's Mystery
- Love seeks closeness and familiarity; desire craves mystery and the unknown.
- The perpetual mystery in long-term relationships fuels eroticism if met with curiosity rather than anxiety.