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Ask Your Partner Better Questions w/ Topaz Adizes EP 79

Jun 18, 2024

Topaz Adizes, an author and filmmaker with over a decade of experience in exploring human emotion, discusses how to ask better questions in relationships. He highlights the concept of 'The And,' promoting emotional connection over individual perspectives. Topaz shares the importance of creating safe spaces for dialogue and offers strategies to reframe questions, making them more meaningful and curiosity-driven. Discover how regular check-ins can prevent conflicts and enhance intimacy, leading to deeper understanding and personal growth.

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Quick takeaways

The concept of 'The And' highlights the importance of genuine conversation to foster deeper connections and intimacy in relationships.

Asking well-constructed, open-ended questions encourages personal reflection and prevents defensive reactions, leading to healthier dialogues.

Deep dives

The Power of Connection

The concept of 'The And' emphasizes the importance of connections in relationships, highlighting that it's about the space between individuals rather than individual identities. This perspective fosters deeper understanding and intimacy, as it encourages facing each other to build stronger bonds through genuine conversation. Topaz Adizis illustrates this by using immersive filming techniques that capture both the speaker and listener in conversation, thereby illuminating the dynamics of their relationship. The aim is to create a profound connection that transcends surface-level interactions, demonstrating that vulnerability creates the opportunity for greater intimacy.

Intro

2min

The Power of Meaningful Questions in Relationships

10min

Navigating Difficult Conversations in Relationships

4min

Transforming Questions for Deeper Connections

9min

The Art of Meaningful Questions in Relationships

3min

Embracing Self-Love and Positive Questioning in Relationships

4min

Feel like your asking the same questions over and over again to your partner? Does it seem like you already know what you want the answer to be? Wonder why your conversations often seem to escalate when you ask your burning question? Is your partner getting a little on the defensive side and maybe feel like their back is against the wall when answering.

It's very possible we're not asking relationship strengthening questions or posing our questions in the right way and here to tell you what you should be asking instead is an author and filmaker, Topaz Adizes, who has spent over a decade exploring human emotion and intimacy through over 1200 crafted conversations.

In this episode, as he gives some reframe examples, you can hear not only how the questions would land differently but how they open up the possibility for some really good conversations.

Here are a few other things we talk about:

the art of asking well-constructed questions to strengthen relationships
insights on maintaining a healthy partnership by creating the right space for communication.
practical advice about avoiding binary questions and ensuring curiosity-driven inquiries
the importance of regular check-ins to prevent conflicts from escalating

Topaz's work can be found at theskindeep.com.

00:00 Introduction to Topaz and His Work
01:23 The Concept of 'The And'
02:44 Crafting Meaningful Questions
07:51 Navigating Relationship Challenges
11:44 Creating Safe Spaces for Conversations
13:14 Maintaining Healthy Relationships
24:08 Personal Growth Through Relationships
25:22 Final Thoughts and Resources

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